Hey Victor. I believe that you're close to 70? Isn't that pretty normal at that age? I'm 54 and still do just fine. All the advertising for Viagra , etc targets men in their 50's. I would say a decent woman near your age would understand. Don't let that hold you back.

Yes, the world belongs to you youngsters now. ;-)

Well I understand exactly how you feel. I am 44 and should not be having problems with erections yet. Especially since I was 14 years until about a year I could get a nail driving hard on when the wind blew. I have suffered from depression most of my life and tried just about every med on the market. I am not on Effexor and appear to be in the 5% range that it caused ED to. Cialis and Viagra do not work at all. I was on the max dose a person could be on, but my depression was for the most part gone. It was the only medication that really truly worked for me. Then the depression of being less and less of a man came on. Why you might ask? Well in my opinion men spend a great portion of their lives with a hard on and it becomes a sign of manhood and actually ego for a man to get and maintain an erection. It is traumatic when you cant be a man and be able to please your woman. It is mentally damaging and you feel like you may as well be a unic and that you will never win the love of a woman, because you cant be a man and satisfy her. SO men with these issues usually shy away from relationships which then starts a whole nother realm of depression from alone.

I just talking with your Dr. and see if there is anything that can be done. Maybe testosterone shots or cream could help? I just had a long conversation with mine a few weeks ago and he is taking me off Effexor and so far we have dropped 75mg and the ED problem is going away. The problem with Effexor is it is one of the strongest anti-depressants there is and trust me drop 75mg at a time has some serious side effects too. So I understand your thoughts and feeling and wish I had more advice for you, but I am not a Dr. You may need to see a specialist too. I have heard that with older men the prostrate swells as we age and that cuts off blood flow to the penis causing issues with ED, but like I have said I AM NOT A DR. so its best to get a professional opinion.

Best Of Luck

Thanks, Lostsoul72, I am on multiple meds, but the main culprit is high-blood pressure med. I found that if I exercise as much as I can (I wear a pacemaker) I can sort of get a little bit stiff. Yes, I am 67 and I am fairly sedentary because I am a writer. I am finding that confidence is very important and so I will work on that. Thanks for all this understanding.

i lost my wife of 60 years over a year ago, and sure would like to meet a nice older woman to date and be friends with; the dating services on line wont deal with you unless you join up and pay money up-front;haven-t even seen much i-d be interested in anyways==

The BP med could also be causing it too. I started to have some trouble when I started on BP meds a few years ago. I could still get it up, but it was not the nail driver it use to be. LOL Then when I started on Effexor I noticed as the dose went up the penis went down. LOL When I hit the maximum dose It was almost all over. The Dr. gave me Viagra to try first and nothing so then it was Cialis and still nothing. So I have noticed now that with just dropping the 75 mg on Effexor it is starting to get better already so I may not go completely off of it. Time will tell I guess.

Eddy
I am sorry for your loss! I cant imagin what you are going through. I lost my brother, and both parents, and my grandfather 3 years ago and I buried all of them in a 15 month time frame. I understand loneliness as I have no family left. I think loosing a spouse would be even harder.
Once again I am sorry and I hope you find a companion.

That's the problem with Viagra and co, I try as much as possible to advise people against it. Go fro natural means to cure ED instead.

50% of all men over the age of 40 will experience some form of ed. I have been taking viagra for nearly 20 years and it makes me feel like I am 18 again! It is perfectly safe! Don't be afraid to ask your doctor for a free sample to see if it helps!

My man is in his early 40's and has problems sometimes. We have found that if we have sex in the morning, it almost always works......night time after stressing out all day, etc....isn't as good. Good luck to you!!!

I'm 51 and have been noticing some "desensitization" in the past few years. When I was in my early 20s I could get hard instantly and fuck like a jack-rabbit, but I'm not in my early 20s anymore. I can still "get there", it just takes awhile longer. In my case, financial stress and inability tk relax for more than a few minutes a day is part of the problem. In my early 20s, I had all the time in the world to be bored, lazy and horny. The mind quite naturally drifted to sex then. Cardio exercise, bicycling, helps me a lot. If you decide to go this route at age 67, just don't overdo it and give yourself a heart attack riding 10+ miles, okay? You have to work up gradually to exercise. Meditation helps with relaxation too.

Before I'd initiate a sexual relationship, I'd initiate an INTELLECTUAL relationship. Beyond the eye candy of her visual beauty, if she turns you on in a conversation, if you like the way each other think, if she laughs at your jokes as you laugh at her jokes, your erectoon should be stimulated right there. If your mind is not stimulated by her, your loins won't be stimulated by her either, and don't bother initiating a sexual relationship. You're a writer? I think you need a reader, and/or a fellow writer!

Be open and honest with whoever you wish to start a relationship with. Consult a physician about your problem first though.