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don't like kissing ?

Christinaki
Christinaki
Do you guys think it's normal not to like kissing? I just don't feel anything at all.. no emotion, nothing.. and it gets boring.. plus the guy I kissed just wanted to stick his tongue all over my mouth.. gross..

I did ask some people and all told me it's great but I don't feel that way.. any ideas?
Dave17
Dave17
"men don't seem to get that"

Ahem. Many women like that. You mean something more like "the men I have dated don't seem to kiss me the way I want them to"
deleted_user
deleted_user
Yeah, I like a lot of tongue action and deep kissing, some aggressive kissing, a little tongue sucking as a tease, a preview of what's to come. Just lip kissing doesn't do it for me.
des10ed2b
des10ed2b
lol. i think it amount to the same thing. i have kissed my fair share of men (not to sound like a giant slut) and i have yet to kiss one that used more lip than tongue. i guess that a lot of women may like that. but i think it amounts to the same. i like slow soft kissing, no guy i have been with has ever done that, i.e., they dont get kissing slow. lol.
koolman
koolman
"he has kissed a lot of girls"

That might be why you're grossed out by it! He needs to be more tight-lipped, so to speak, about such matters.
koolman
koolman
Me and Vietnamese honey seem to have reached the right "pitch" in our kissing.

I start, gently, just on the lips, then let her reciprocate, if she wishes to. When she kisses me back, I kiss her a little deeper. I can feel her teeth tightly clenched, as her tongue flicks back and forth against the back of her teeth, sending little electric sparks through me. I gently flick my tongue against the front of her teeth, enticing her tongue out, which it finally does. Then our tongues are embroiled in a furious python fest. I'm rock-hard by this point, and try to push things further, but she puts on the brakes...

Que sara sara...
deleted_user
deleted_user
KKKKIIIISSIIINNNGGG!!! LLLLIIIIICCCKKKKIIIIINNNNGGGG!!! SSSSSSUUUUUCCCCKKKKKIIIIIINNNNNGGGG!!!

Yes, please.
FadingIntoDarkness
FadingIntoDarkness
just because i drive a lot of cars, does that mean i'm a good driver? (no, no it does not).

in my eyes, a "good kisser" or someone who is "good sexually" is someone who listens to the needs and wants of his/her partner and finds a way to compromise on everything. talk to him about it and see if he can "soften up a bit" on it, and maybe that'll give you some of the intimacy that you want :)
Christinaki
Christinaki
Wow a lot of replies LOL

First of all, I am not in a relationship with the guy I talk about in my post, I am single and I don't have anyone to kiss..

From the experiences I had kissing, I never really liked it. Well we don't all like the same things right? Maybe I'm the one who did it badly, I don't know.. but I am GLAD I don't have to kiss this guy anymore..

My question was because this has put me off on the kissing subject, I feel like I won't want to do it again with someone else, as I didn't like it, and it can be bad on a future relationship..

It could be I kissed the wrong guy or I simply don't like it, we're all different people, but from what I had LOL it was kinda gross and not good at all..