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Im just interested in your take on this.
Its been bothering me so I hoped posting on here would get it out of my head!
My Husband and I were on a boating holiday on a river boat. We were having a nice time in bed, making love it was all nice and intimate.
Then all of a sudden he said lets do it doggy style.( yes that bit is ok!) but what I didn't know was he had opened the curtains and the door so we could be seen. He positioned me so I could be seen by a passing boat.
We tried to get me to pose so they could see me having a good time.
It was just such an about turn in his demeanour and I felt so yukky after that it killed the moment for me. I just felt degraded.
How would you feel?
My Husband has a bit of a history of behaviour that makes me feel like this. When we used to go out dancing he would physically push me onto other men and try and get others to see my breasts and vocally discussing our sex life in a bar.
I don't know what to feel about this. or him really.
He keeps on hurting me too, like a bite on my nipple or a scratch as he puts his fingers inside me. If I complain he says oh just behave and stop moving around. I do have talks with him out of the bedroom about this and to be honest its making me feel like I want to avoid sex with him. His last 3 ( yes 3) marriages all failed because his wives wouldn't sleep with him after a certain time so he started finding sex elsewhere. He is the clumsiest lover I have ever known!
Its been bothering me so I hoped posting on here would get it out of my head!
My Husband and I were on a boating holiday on a river boat. We were having a nice time in bed, making love it was all nice and intimate.
Then all of a sudden he said lets do it doggy style.( yes that bit is ok!) but what I didn't know was he had opened the curtains and the door so we could be seen. He positioned me so I could be seen by a passing boat.
We tried to get me to pose so they could see me having a good time.
It was just such an about turn in his demeanour and I felt so yukky after that it killed the moment for me. I just felt degraded.
How would you feel?
My Husband has a bit of a history of behaviour that makes me feel like this. When we used to go out dancing he would physically push me onto other men and try and get others to see my breasts and vocally discussing our sex life in a bar.
I don't know what to feel about this. or him really.
He keeps on hurting me too, like a bite on my nipple or a scratch as he puts his fingers inside me. If I complain he says oh just behave and stop moving around. I do have talks with him out of the bedroom about this and to be honest its making me feel like I want to avoid sex with him. His last 3 ( yes 3) marriages all failed because his wives wouldn't sleep with him after a certain time so he started finding sex elsewhere. He is the clumsiest lover I have ever known!
Sounds like he is an exabitionist (cant spell it)
I will say what I said to you last time you posted.
You really need to leave this guy.
He has done a lot of shitty things to you.
(((hugs)))
I asked him about it later and he just shrugged and looked a bit sheepish.
As for clumsy - he's just always catching my hair or kneeling on my hand or something.
I have been far more assertive with him in bed about this stuff so we will see.
You seem to question yourself a lot and I think he uses that to get away with stuff.
You are a lovely woman. It's time to trust in and know your own worth.
xxoo
Yes, this scares me.
I will do some reading.
x
I really struggle to make my own decisions about things these days. Before I met my Husband I was in the middle of a degree and very happy and decisive!
We were in bed this morning and had made love ( well had sex I felt) and while lying together afterwards he asked me why I wouldn't let him touch HIS booboos. I said because Im scared you will hurt me, you make me worried you will bite me again ( he once pulled on them very hard) so Im just wary of you with them. I can't relax.
Then silence for a while.
Then he says to me - whats the matter? You seem really tense?
I said, because what you just said wasn't kind or loving.
He got really cross and told me I was a horrible woman to keep his boobs away from him. He said wow, you sure know how to make a man feel good. And he turned his back on me in bed.
I left the room.
But I was shocked at his reaction. I told him I expected him to say he was sorry for hurting me but instead I got that.
SO yes, I see what you mean, that was horrible reaction and not one of a man in love with me.
Sad.
I really struggle to make my own decisions about things these days. Before I met my Husband I was in the middle of a degree and very happy and decisive!
We were in bed this morning and had made love ( well had sex I felt) and while lying together afterwards he asked me why I wouldn't let him touch HIS booboos. I said because Im scared you will hurt me, you make me worried you will bite me again ( he once pulled on them very hard) so Im just wary of you with them. I can't relax.
Then silence for a while.
He got really cross and told me I was a horrible woman to keep his boobs away from him. He said wow, you sure know how to make a man feel good.
Then he says to me - whats the matter? You seem really tense?
I said, because what you just said wasn't kind or loving.
He turned his back on me in bed and wouldn't speak.
But I was shocked at his reaction. I told him I expected him to say he was sorry for hurting me but instead I got that.
SO yes, I see what you mean, that was horrible reaction and not one of a man in love with me.
Sad.
It wouldn't let me edit!
My first husband had those traits and it escalated into verbal and physical abuse. I got a divorce quickly and never looked back.
I would advise you to leave. He definitely doesn't love you.