Healthy Sex Support Group
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I have to wonder....so many of us have our struggles. I did have my own.....brought on from an incident which would scare my mother into thinking I was heading toward embarassing and shaming myself as she did.
Funny thing was....she had never done anything to be ashamed of or guilty about.... but she would carry that burden all of her life. She and my father both carried incredible guilt. My Dad did because he would learn that his parents HAD to marry as he was 2 months on his way. An aunt would later make a remark how he was the reason they got together and probably would not have otherwise. To him, his Dad was not loving or supportive to his Mom or him. (He would be an only child, further pressing that burden of guilt upon him)
My Mom's father was very active in their church for years.S uperintendent of Sunday School for years as well. I am told til she was 18, she only missed 2 weeks. Even though in their 20s, she and my Dad would get together when he was home on leave (WW2). They would also wind up running off to elope to another state when he was back on another leave. She was 2 months pregnant as well.
It would take a therapist to help me realize that my Mom did not believe I was not on my way to becoming a lying little slut. Rather it was her fear as I was a budding teen gaining attention from boys that I would fall prey as she did (and get caught up in passion and sex) and wind up in the same situation. For a long time I believed she thouht so badly of me and that fueled that shame and guilt. Took me a very long time to overcome it.
These things can do quite a number on us. Wondering if there are others like me?And who did put tgat guilt on you? Parents?Spouses? Or perhaps ourselves?
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My day...today...misplaced my debit card...didn't realize it until I got to the register after shopping to a full cart. Used a different debit card and pulled apart everything looking for missing debit card before I left parking lot. Got home, dropped keys. So now I have a missing debit card, missing keys. A full cartload to unload and put away. I got everything put away.Dumped purse for a...
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I have toys. So the ones I have not used or need any more, are gone in the trash. One of my toys is just a regular hand held massager with an attachment. The other is a real insertable toy. This morning I ordered a new toy with attachments. It is small and has a brush like attachment and the other looks like a rose with a tiny tongue. I'll get it in about 2 weeks. Rechargable and...
It's not that they've had a perfect childhood, far from it. Nor are they perfect people today.
But the other day, my 19 year old son went and bought feminine products, Maxi pad, for his sister....without blinking an eye.
***Now I had looong talked to him about that. In fact, when he was 12 and telling him the facts of life, telling him that he could and would support his sister if she had cramps or needed products was a huge part of my talk with him. But....no one ever knows if their kid will really listen to what you're saying to them.***
.rode.home hysterical to mom..who explained to her..
"You of tender years, can't know the fears, that your elders grew by..."
I feel guilty for enjoying sex as much as I do, I can’t imagine my mom approving. She’s a very proper woman. And my dad doesn’t believe woman should use foul language and that includes talking about sex. Boy oh boy I am not my parents lol
I have an open relationship with my kids, talked to them about safe sex and never made it out to be a bad thing. I just don’t need to know what they are doing, that’s their private lives lol
Some of their ministers are even gay and I think that's great!
I've been working so much, I haven't had much time to even think about sex, but when I do, nah--there's no guilt associated with it anymore, even in my propensity towards anal. While I like vaginal too, anal is what makes my dick really hard and makes me cum, I guess because it's really deviant and nasty and I am a deviant, nasty little fiend. I make no apologies for it.