I have to wonder....so many of us have our struggles. I did have my own.....brought on from an incident which would scare my mother into thinking I was heading toward embarassing and shaming myself as she did. 

Funny thing was....she had never done anything to be ashamed of or guilty about.... but she would carry that burden all of her life. She and my father both carried incredible guilt. My Dad did because he would learn that his parents HAD to marry as he was 2 months on his way. An aunt would later make a remark how he was the reason they got together and probably would not have otherwise. To him, his Dad was not loving or supportive to his Mom or him. (He would be an only child, further pressing that burden of guilt upon him)

My Mom's father was very active in their church for years.S uperintendent of Sunday School for years as well. I am told til she was 18, she only missed 2 weeks.  Even though in their 20s, she and my Dad would get together when he was home on leave (WW2). They would also wind up running off to elope to another state when he was back on another leave. She was 2 months pregnant as well.

It would take a therapist to help me realize that my Mom did not believe I was not on my way to becoming  a lying little slut. Rather it was her fear as I was a budding teen gaining attention from boys that I would fall prey as she did (and get caught up in passion and sex) and wind up in the same situation. For a long time I believed she thouht so badly of me and that fueled that shame and guilt.  Took me a very long time to overcome it.

These things can do quite a number on us. Wondering if there are others like me?And who did put tgat guilt on you?  Parents?Spouses? Or perhaps ourselves?