Healthy Sex Support Group
This community is dedicated to an open discussion about healthy sex and sharing thoughts and feelings about sexuality and improving one's sex life. Most active adults desire to have an active and fulfilling sex life, both for themselves and also their partner. Here we discuss common sexual challenges faced by both men and women.
OK...I'm still in my "moral dilemma" mode.
Does anyone find that when they go too far out on the "wild side" (more is better) and try every sexual trick in the book (BJ, cunninglus, anal, whatever puts your freak on) that they lose sweetness in themselves and their relationship, their heart becomes callous and hard, it distances them from their partner (and God for religious types) and then one finds that they have to rein in the wildness to get back in touch with their sweetness and the sweetness of their partner, being humble in the whole experience, which is what made their partner so attractive and the sex so hot in the first place? I know I do.
Does anyone find that when they go too far out on the "wild side" (more is better) and try every sexual trick in the book (BJ, cunninglus, anal, whatever puts your freak on) that they lose sweetness in themselves and their relationship, their heart becomes callous and hard, it distances them from their partner (and God for religious types) and then one finds that they have to rein in the wildness to get back in touch with their sweetness and the sweetness of their partner, being humble in the whole experience, which is what made their partner so attractive and the sex so hot in the first place? I know I do.
don't get me wrong.. I like both.. the sweetness and the dirty sex.. but in my experience, too much dirty sex and there's no sweetness left.
We get wild in our own ways, but never abuse the other. Like scratch a bit or bite or leave a hicky but we never hurt the other in bed physically or psychologically.
For me im getting wilder as im learning more about myself (im 23 lots of new things im learning right now) and we just go with the flow and we are Christian, yet it doesnt make anything less special at all.