whate\/er, BACK to the subject at hand ~

Superstar ~ more of a pri\/ate joke there,

But Kool, gotta tell ya, you're going to find "HER" as soon as you figure out who "SHE" is (likely once you find out who YOU are) and once you do, there is going to be SOME sex going on there!!!

Just remember, a "nice girl" is one that is happy with herself, and by default, allows you to be happy with yourself simply by being together, whether missionary once a week or wild animal sex daily, you're content with each other

the black P\/C catsuit is just a bonus

Thanks, alittle. My issue is monogamy. I want to be so intoxicatingly comfortable with someone that neither one of us WANTS to stray. I'm getting there, believe me. I really feel "comfortable in my wildness" with this one hot bartender (and can tell that she feels the same), but she already has a boyfriend...DAMN!!! That's the only thing that's keeping me from reaching across that bar and giving her some serious face-sucking! Take her to the bathroom (or set up a date) and do her every which way but loose.

I thought we could just be friends, but...it's getting a little too weird (for both of us) and I think I should stay away from her before I become that "other guy", that "piece of meat" she goes crazy with, and then goes back to the boyfriend, because he's stable (emotionally and financially) but boring. That would hurt me like hell. I'm already hurting over this one.

The slender little body on this blond chick is unbelievable, and she's got the wildest light-blue eyes that just drink me in and say "love me, desire me"...the sweetest heart, intelligent, the most delightful sense of humor...everything I (or any man) could possibly want in a woman! No more bartenders...they're "friendly" with everybody; it's all about the cash.

She's a chameleon, a shape-shifter, who "becomes" whatever I am. Maybe she really likes me, maybe she just wants me around to keep ordering drinks, giving her tips and keep her employed, all about the cash, maybe both. Whatever her motives, she's GOOD. And DANGEROUS...

missfits: I appreciate your comment. That is exactly what I was talking about in my original post. Too much wildness and you lose the sweetness. I think if you and your beau had spent more time together, you might have had time to find comfort and strike a balance...sometimes let him go wild and get his freak on...then tame him a bit and tell him you just want to cuddle tonight. Keep plugging!

I dont think you become callous, there is a time for the sweet church girl and there is a time for the sex freak... you just have to balance the two.

YES!!

I think its for this reason: Wild stuff is very fun, but by definition it is not very intimate. Many of the things done during wild sex prevent the intimacy of constant kissing, gentle caressing, etc.

I have to occasionally tell Neal that I must regroup with some slow, sultry, sensual sex where we tell one another how much we love each other and kiss the whole time. This can be just as exciting as wild sex. Really more so. Sex was created by God to be a loving, intimate, and passionate experience. Praise the Lord for that!!!

Yeah, bartenders play the game, mebbe this one does like you, but you're best to step back, would you really WANT someone that left a boyfriend for you? what would stop them from doing it again?

Ha\/e you checked out plentyoffish? You can search up people in your area and try it that way

Church may also be the way to go for you, a good social circle, possibly more people that share your guidelines, or can help define them a bit better with you, and you're cleansing the soul! Really, how can you lose?! Besides, just because someone is a belie\/er, doesn't mean they don't enjoy their body and experiences!

Nope, I would NOT want someone who left her boyfriend for me, unless I just looked at it as a temporary thing, and, once I really like a girl, it is very, very difficult for me to let go of her.

Yes, I think church is for me. I do think there are other people there who are not "strictly Christian" in the sense of waiting until marriage to have sex, and who might be into starting a relationship (which may lead to marriage if we find ourselves totally compatible). Thanks, dude.

Or dear. Sorry, alittle, I forgot you're a gal LOL.

I know this is off topic, but either people type / for the letter v all the time- which I don't get why,
or something is wrong in the programming. I'm confused.

(checks name) nope, *i'm* alittleconfused flute

Seriously, the \/ key is missing from my laptop, so, I impro\/ise

No worries about off topic, tangents happen ALL the time

No, if you are truly comfortable with each other, and accepting and nonjudgmental of each other you can often read each other's needs and learn to accommodate each other. My husband and I enjoy hot, raunchy sex and also sweet, romantic love making and one does not necessarily lead to the exclusion of the other. You just need to find someone that you are in synch with. When that happens what you are wanting at the time is also often what they are wanting at the time.

Wow, that sounds great.

when you have sex.what are you thinking about mostly ...........about you, how you feel or how you want to get off? or are you thinking about her, what does she like, what does she need tonight? I have been truly spoiled . I truly enjoy a man who thinks about me or makes be feel like its all about me in the bed room. SO if hes really in touch with me , he'll feel the attraction from across the room, he'll read my face, listen to how my body responses and respond accordingly. It cant possible be freaky all the time, but not to say that freaky is a negative thing. IF you make it all about her in the bed room she will take you places far from freaky to the highs of passion, to the deeps of emotional bliss. IT all GOOOOODDDDD. Its the yin and yang therapy , Two opposite things both beautiful yet very different from each other. One cant exist with out the other.