I remember when I was married, my wife refused sex with me alot of the time and even when we had sex, it was mostly one sided with me doing all the work. I would start off with a total body massage for about 20 or 30 minutes, then I would give her oral for about the same amount of time and then if I was lucky, we could have intercourse. The only way she could have an orgasm was if she was on top and grinding on me. but with me being small, and guiding her hips so I could stay inside her, she would get going really hard as she approached orgasm, so much so that it would slip out. That would infuriate her to no end. That would be the end of the sex for the night.

After many times of that sex scenario, she pretty much cut me off saying I didn't satisfy her. I even visited my priest and told him about my wife refusing to share intimacy and his reply was that each person in a relationship is responsible for the sexual satisfaction of the other! The priest pretty much told me to get a divorce for my wife's refusal to sexually satisfy me! We did divorce many years later and for a different reason but at the time, I also was looking for a friend with benefits although I never found one.

Sex is a very basic human need so it doesn't surprise me that you are having other problems because you are not satisfying that need. You might want to give your husband an ultimatum if he isn't doing what his marriage vows tell him to do as far as satisfying your sexual needs. Don't settle for less because you are important and you deserve to be treated like a woman!

Good Luck!