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koolman 10/07/2008

Isn't that what any happy, successful marriage is? Beyond the possessiveness and flowery romanticism, isn't that what any relationship should be?

Friends do love each other, allow each other to come and go as they please without putting their hooks into each other in a possessive stranglehold, trust each other not to stray and respect each other.

kidsintowe03 10/07/2008

and here I was thinking "I miss being in a relationship" but if this is how you guys think, why bother??

I would hope that next relationship I find myself in, that he would think more of me then what you have described above...

koolman 10/07/2008

Or, in a non-committed relationship, friends trust each other to tell each other if they've found someone else so there's no "sneaking around" or "cheating". Friends like each other enough to be honest, above-board.

koolman 10/07/2008

Sorry you feel that way, kids.

deleted_user 10/07/2008

Hmmm, I dunno Kool, I really don't think possessiveness is a part of a happy marriage...there definiely isn't any possessiveness in my marriage. I gotta say, my marriage is a happy one, we don't put our hooks in each other (as you put it), we do trust each other as well as respect one another.

koolman 10/07/2008

Sorry, Gina, let me rephrase...it seems so many relationships DO have possessiveness. I was making a point that possessiveness should NOT be there...bad choice of words on my part.

Just say NO to possessiveness.

koolman 10/07/2008

A little flowery romanticism is good tho LOL.

deleted_user 10/07/2008

Okay, we'll let you slide on this one, Kool! LOL

INNURMIND 10/07/2008

I have NEVER in our relationship had the feeling that I Possessed my SO. I am not a slave owner. I am a man. I don't expect anything that I am not willing to return in the same manor. I do love my SO. I do Respect my SO. I am committed to my SO.

deleted_user 10/07/2008

I think if your point is that we should treat our SO as good as we treat our friends, I agree. I watch people say and act in bad behavior with their SO-they would never treat a friend that way. But, I still want more from my SO-I want him to want to be with me-to crave me-to think about me when I'm away. I don't do that with my friends.

deleted_user 10/07/2008

I am committed to my husband, and he is my best friend...I don't believe in possesiveness...so I guess we have the same fundamental beliefs...just not certain that I would have worded it the way that you did...

SST 10/07/2008

I aint possesive I want all the lady's of HS LOL THATS GREED LOL

deleted_user 10/07/2008

I think you have to be friends with your partner if you are going to be married because after many years that is what will keep you together. There had better be some romance too though!

Tray34 10/07/2008

My husband and I are definitely committed and we are definitely each others best friend.But I dont think either one of us could be called possessive.We have trust and respect for each other and of course being in a marriage there are boundaries and expectations.

deleted_user 10/07/2008

Not every relationship is about sex...

Most of my friends (90%) are men...I dont sleep with them...so they can do whatever the hell (whoever the hell) they want...but if I commit to a man and his friendship and sex...he better commit the same to me...marriage or not...

deleted_user 10/07/2008

i so agree with this, a certain amout well placed is ok, but my ex wife suffocated me. i think it played a large part in the deterioration of our marriage!

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