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Clueless husband!!

APieceOfMyHeart
APieceOfMyHeart

I never thought I'd be public about this but I am SO frustrated I don't know what else to do!!


I'm currently 20 weeks pregnant.


I've NEVER been so damn horny in my life. Sex when I can manage to get it from my husband is... amazing doesn't even begin to describe it. My husband is WELL aware of this- I have told him I am stupid horny, it's pretty damn obvious that I am greatly enjoying sex- more than ever before.


You'd THINK we'd be going at it like rabbits, right?


Wrong. 


3 times. We have had sex 3 times since we found out I was pregnant. 


He works a physically demanding job, we have a friend who has no where else to go who has overstayed his welcome at least from my perspective staying with us- I'm not sleeping well (a good nightly orgasm or two would help!) A lot of things are working against me getting my needs met.


I'm sick of using toys- I want my husband's body and all the pleasures only he can give me. All I get? These absolutely do nothing for me thin, quick, kisses that just make me MORE frustrated!


He's always busy, the roommate won't leave us to have married couple time, I am going out of my flipping mind!!


I feel like if this weekend goes by and I have to wait ANOTHER week to maybe get some damn sex around here I'll go mad!! He never has sex with me during the week.


For the record, I have always had the higher sex drive- being pregnant has just sent it to maddening levels. I want it pretty much every day- sometimes more than once a day. You can imagine my frustration at the wanting it once a day and getting it less than once a month!


Help!!! I've tried being all cuddly this morning and he just got up to start his day. I keep trying to get a flipping decent kiss- nothing. Hello?! We haven't had sex in FOREVER and I'm horny as hell every damn day!!


Someone tell me what to do- I'm lying in bed frustrated as hell, sad, and so damn horny...

Ghostwolf04
Ghostwolf04
What is wrong with men? They think you can't have sex when you're pregnant. I've heard this alot lately. Who the hell can go 9 months and not get laid. Wtf ignorance.
patti22
patti22
I remember being pregnant...I sympathize.
sweetgirl18
sweetgirl18
I been there. I picked out my husband always wanted it and even to this day he still does.we do about 3 times average.after giving birth you'll want it more.
veggiequeen
veggiequeen
Is there a way you could mention it hubby ( as well as the dense friend?) Maybe suggest that 2 nights a week he ventures out for awhile (to grab something to eat, go visit a friend or run some errands or see a movie?)

Considering you have been kind enough to let him stay there far longer than expected, it is not out of line for you to mention you two would just like a little time to yourself. (Maybe bring home the point that soon you will even less time for yourselves once the little bundle arrives.)

Hugs
looking2bhappy
looking2bhappy
I was the same way pregnant, shouldn’t get enough yet my husband didn’t seem interested. When I talked to him about it, he was afraid to hurt me or the baby. He didn’t want to do anything that might cause me to lose the baby. Do you think your husband is having thoughts similar to that? I had to convince my husband it was safe. His drive still wasn’t as strong as mine but he gave in a bit more.
APieceOfMyHeart
APieceOfMyHeart
Thankfully, he ultimately took the hint yesterday.

I have a great OBGYN who covered this (among other things) in our 1st appointment- telling us (him) that we can continue to enjoy or sex lives as normal despite my pregnancy but to not do anything that could cause risk to the baby ie- breath play and to be extra diligent about cleaning toys if we use them but otherwise to enjoy, that baby is well protected in there. My husband, thankfully, listens to my doctor.

So it's more of a roommate/ time/ energy/ I have the higher sex drive to begin with issue.

Thankfully, my husband and I are planning to move before too long and roommate can not come with us due to work. That will help a lot.

We talked a bit more about this after sex- he agreed it's been hard to time particularly with the roommate but that he will try to be more aware of my needs.

I'll admit I have heard that before- but I know it will be a lot easier after we move. Trying to hang in there.
Drake6302
Drake6302
If memory serves me right. The best times were during her two pregnancies. Honestly we thought we exhausted each other before the babies. But soon learned what real exhaustion was after they were born. Be as straight with him as you can. And let him handle that friend. I hope things improve for you soon. And hope for a healthy happy baby as well. Hugs
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