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Can't get an erection as often anymore...

shyloner
shyloner
Ok, this is kind of starting to freak me out. I've been having this problem for about a month and it's getting worse... I mean, it kind of started a few months ago but now it's really difficult to get hard. I've been dating this amazing girl, she's really beautiful, VERY nice body and I am really REALLY attracted to her... but even alone I have trouble getting an erection now. She keeps saying it's her and it's really not! This is really weird and unusual for me and it's not that I'm uncomfortable with her or not aroused, I'm probably more comfortable with her than I've ever been with anyone else in my life, I just don't get hard. It's really starting to bother me because even at home, alone with porn I have trouble now.. I used to have a pretty high sex drive and believe me, this girl is VERY attractive and ordinarily there's no way I would have any problem! Why is this happening to me?!?! It's finally gotten to the point when even when we're both in the mood and all over each other I still don't get hard :(

I was honest and told her I've been having this problem for a while now. She's noticed, and it did bother her at first but this time she was kind of just joking when she said it was her this time. I feel really bad, I really want her! We only have a few more weeks together until she goes away for like 6-7 months! So far, my time with her has been absolutely amazing! I've never had anything like this before! Aside from the erectile issues, I feel pretty amazing with her. We click really well, we're great together and I feel bad that I just so happen to have this problem now... What do I do?!?!
onetoomany
onetoomany
First of all how old are you?

You may need to get a physical with your Dr just to check things out.

I wish you much luck.
leather2lace
leather2lace
ED is most often a symptom of something else going on. There are many reasons for ED, a medical condition you might not even be aware of (high BP, diabetes, heart problems, cancer, etc), a psychological issue, a medication you might be on, low T level, drugs, alcohol, etc.

The only way to find out for sure what is causing it is to talk to your doctor about it. Make an appointment with your doctor (preferably a Urologist), tell him/her what is going on, get a complete check up, blood work and go from there.
koolman
koolman
I second onetoomany and leather: How old are you? If over 45, you either have to accept the card nature is dealing you, or snort Viagra or Cialis, after a doctor has determined your heart is healthy enough for sex. Yes, get a complete physical, including blood work to screen for cancer and to get a cholesterol count with an HDL/LDL ratio, and an EKG.

Also, how much cardio exercise do you do? I bicycle a lot and always feel very horny after 5 miles. When I haven't had time to exercise for awhile, I feel old and lethargic with low libido. I'm age 50. Healthy heart and aggressively-flowing endorphins make a huge difference in male sex drive as well as just feeling warm, loving and wonderful in general deep-down spiritually.
shyloner
shyloner
I'm 27.. I do need more exercise.. I do still get erections, just not nearly as often and usually in the mornings and really late at night.

I don't get a lot of exercise but I DO walk A LOT! I have to... I wondered if it was a bp issue, my blood pressure has been higher than normal over the past year or so. It's been more noticeable lately though.
koolman
koolman
Get a checkup with an EKG, man. There might be some heart trouble. If there is, try to treat it with diet and aspirin. The docs will try to hook you on Lipitor or some other drug.
koolman
koolman
Some other drug stronger than aspirin I mean.
strwberryginger
strwberryginger
Since others have mentioned other things my thoughts are this:

Do you watch porn?
Some people it doesn't affect much but others can have erection problems.

I found a lot of neat articles about it at http://www.yourbrainonporn.com/
billwfriend
billwfriend
wow I feel your pain....hugs and hope things check out at the doctors office....you should be banging hard and strong at that age....LOL
koolman
koolman
"...even alone with porn I have trouble now." Yes, he said he watches porn. You think it might be a desensitization thing, Strawberry?
koolman
koolman
If so, yes, I agree and know from my own experience that overstimulation from watching too much porn desensitizes the brain as well as the member. Backing off from wacking off to porn, abstaining from porn usage, for a few weeks could restore penis sensitivity.
Sosa86
Sosa86
Don't take anything until you see a doctor and get a physical done. Unless there are doctors on here, good intentions aside, it isn't right to recommend any kind of medical therapy. Even then, the only person who should be recommending medicines is the doctor who has done the exam on you.
stressedguy
stressedguy
27 is way too young for this problem unless you had an injury. 7 years ago my daughter hit me in a sensitive area and it caused me a low T issue for a few months. I couldn't keep it up and my ex thought I was having an affair until I saw a Dr. Also high cholesterol can effect blood flow. See a doc soon, if it's low t it's easy to treat.
strwberryginger
strwberryginger
oh yes, thanks Kool, I missed that he said that. It very well could be, typically when you wacth porn it does progress over time to be more and more "shocking", the porn that got you off when you first started doesn't anymore you look for more extreme and that is the case for both men and women, not just men
Bubbabiker
Bubbabiker
1. Stop watching porn.
2. Stop jacking off
3. Start exercising
4. Start eating healthy. No sodas or alcohol.
5. Gotta relax. Performance anxiety is an erection killer.
LivingWater
LivingWater
Koolman, you made me laugh!!! You said "after determining that your heart is healthy enough for sex." Obviously you have been listening to the commercials and can quote them almost verbatim! Personally I will be 70 in December, intend to become sexually active again sometime, and don't care whether or not my heart is healthy enough for sex. LOL
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