Happy to amuse you.

Koolman I'm having a hard time deciding if you are being sarcastic or serious. My answers vary greatly depending on that......

Kool, married and divorced 3 times here, 2 kids. I have provided a lot for them over the years, maybe not financially but in many more important aspects of their lives, one resents me the other is inspired by me.
after the third failure I went and got fixed, could not bare to put another child through the agony of divorce, which I fear would just happen again.
double edge sword, damned if you do, damned if you don't

I agree with koolman completely. We have alot in common.

I'm not getting your meaning. Do you fear getting a lady pregnant and having unwanted pregnancies or do you want a relationship, want to have kids but fear you won't be able to provide for a family financially?

If it's just pregnancy you're worried about, the size of your load has nothing to do with your sperm count or how good of swimmers your sperms are. Condoms are 98% effective which is real high and a woman is only fertile a short few days a month. The chances of her getting pregnant when any kind of BC is used properly is very low. I've been having a sex and a lot of it for the past 34 years and the 3 pregnancies I had were all planned.

If you're worried about providing for kids, as Toss said providing isn't just about providing financially. The basics are necessary, food, shelter but the non-material things that a parent provides for their kids IMO are way more important than every toy or gadget on the market, an ingroud back yard pool and elaborate vacations.

If you're really worried about pregnancy and you don't ever want kids, get yourself fixed.

You could always look at it this way, you're 46 do you really want to start now having a family? A lot of women over 40 aren't interested in having more children. Now if you date someone younger she may want children. I think you need to find someone before you worry about having children. If you meet someone older I'm sure she probably already has children. I agree with Toss there is more involved in raising a child than money.

Vasectomy has cured all my stress on the potential little davexs subject. Take matters into your own hands.

Leather: "Do you fear getting a lady pregnant and having unwanted pregnancies or do you want a relationship, want to have kids but fear you won't be able to provide for a family financially?"

Answer: Mixed emotions, leather. I love kids and have a lot of energy (still, at 46) as long as I'm not chasing the bucks. I think the real issue here is I'm not happy in my career(s). What I have to do and the people I have to deal with to make money I find pure drudgery and annoying/irritating. Looking for a career that might actually excite me, but nothing's jumping out at the moment.

Mercedes: "You could always look at it this way, you're 46 do you really want to start now having a family? A lot of women over 40 aren't interested in having more children. Now if you date someone younger she may want children. I think you need to find someone before you worry about having children. If you meet someone older I'm sure she probably already has children. I agree with Toss there is more involved in raising a child than money."

Answer: That'r true, Merc; there's love and energy required, as I said, of which I have a lot of. Making money takes me away from that which I truly love. Maybe I'm the "stay at home" Mr. Mom type, who is more suited to rearing kids and making sure dinner is on the table, while my honey is out dealing with corporate bullshit. And yes, I'm happy to fish in my own age pond, but all the ladies I know are way more physically and emotionally decrepid than me, so I guess I have to fish younger. The younger ones want kids so...

And, since I'm living paycheck to paycheck, can't afford a vasectomy, so I'm relying on condoms, which of course are not 100%. Even a first-time fuck can lead to pregnancy, so I have to be "kids-minded" even first time out. Therefore, since younger woman (depending on the younger woman) = kids (you all want kids by a certain age, say 30), guess I have to want kids too. 30 is roughly the age I'm looking for, since, when I'm not dealing with the drudgery of work, I feel 30.

30 is the age where we're not kids anymore, and hopefully the raging, roaring 20s' all-night bar or dance club drinking binges have been purged from the system (OK, maybe an occasional dance club excursion), career-minded, still looking forward to the future, good head on the shoulders, physically active.

If you have to pay full fare to be snipped I can see the financial issue. Mine was covered by insurance so cost me a total of $20 out of pocket.

You of course don't have to engage in vaginal intercourse but can get your rocks off in other ways. But many women ( most I've been with) are on birth control. Coupled with condoms chances of pregnancy is very small. If you know a condom has failed, there is plan b or the day after pill or whatever it is called now. Of course she has to be willing to take it.

"Willing to take it": That's the problem, dave. My brother dated a woman who was on the pill and claimed that, after 3 sons of her own, she was going to get a tubal ligation, until she realized she was madly in love with him, then conveniently "forgot" to take the pill, in order to entrap him into moving in with her and/or marrying her. A miscarriage later, she broke it off with him after she attended a funeral and realized life's to short to compromise on what she wanted (kids, after her words to him that she was going to get a tubal ligation) and he paid for her divorce from her philandering pedophile STBX (!).

You can see why I'm having some trust issues with women here lol!

Condoms, dave, that seems the only course for me, and not allowing myself to drink so much that I forget to use one.

In todays age Kool there are more woman out there that are also steril in oneway or another. However it is a risk you will always take in the event of sex with someone that is fertil. I spent many years(12) using condoms and only had two fail. Use the ones with spermacide as that would also help kill the little swimmers. Other than that I dont have much advice for you bud. I would also think that most failure of condoms comes from things being too dry so keep it wet! LOL

Koolman, you bring up some important points: the lack of well paying jobs that men like and the high cost of raising children. young american families are really get squeezed from both of these directions and i expect it only to get worse for the next ten years since neither political party has any clue as to how to create jobs.

if i were young, i would get a vasectomy before i fathered kids that i couldn't afford or had to keep a job that was horrible.