Healthy Sex Support Group
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I have a friend that enjoys giving head only thing that i would like to change is that she goes at it like it is a race how can I get her to change how she goes about it with out offending her we are both older then middle age.
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Define the ‘70s in five words.
1) Guide her along as she's doing it. Tell her slower, softer, more this, less that, whatever it is you like just let her know.
2) Talk to her at a time sex isn't on the table by telling her how you like it done.
Telling a partner what works for you, what doesn't, what you like, don't like isn't a reason for the partner to be offended.
Flip the coin...........If she told you how she likes X, Y or Z done and if was different than what you were doing, would you be offended?
Open, honest communication and the willingness to please each other is the key to a great sex life. No one is a mind reader and one can't expect the other to know what works and what doesn't.
I would be offended if my partner wanted something but didn't tell me and the same goes for him. It would say we're not comfortable enough with each other to talk openly about our sex life. IMO....if you're comfortable enough to be shaking the sheets with each other, what's so difficult talking about it.
so.. I'll ' ditto' what you just said. :)
I usually ask while I am doing it to make sure I am doing it how he likes!
I jokingly say
"Belt out those commands!!"
Yeah I am pretty direct!!
Good lovin!