Healthy Sex Support Group
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I haven't been with a woman in well over a year and as you all know, we humans have needs and all the things I did to avoid those needs; like burying myself in work, and occupying my mind with things I have a passion for like running; all work for awhile but eventually those needs are going to poke through!
So I joined an adult dating to look for an fwb. I never realized what I had to go through to find one! There was one site that seemed to have alot of women from my home town! I thought some of them looked familiar even! There profile pictures were pretty hot showing the essential parts of their bodies and the few women who were clothed still looked pretty darn seductive, just the same.
So I figured, hell, almost nobdy has clothes on so my might as well upload a profile photo of the same but it never appeared and I received an email telling me it was denied. Flagged for being inappropriate and I am thinking about all the naked women photos I just looked at and I'm thinking, "WTF!" That's discrimination! So I uploaded a photo of my face and the rest of me has clothes on so I am sure the site owners are happy with that.
Now I don't think I'm a bad looking guy for my age but the women aren't exactly filling up my email with messages, in fact, outside of a few, one time flirts, I didn't get any. So I wrote a letter to the company and asked if my mail was getting through because I wasn't getting any responses. I receive a response informing me that my letters had indeed been sent but those women who received them did not open them!
It turns out that if you're a man, you have a huge disadvantage on those sites because the men far outnumber the women.
An insider told me that I have to send out a minimum of 100 messages just to get one response. So I've been averaging about 50 messages a day but have had no serious responses yet and I keep changing my messages and saying different things in different ways but nothing seems to work.
About 3 or 4 more weeks of this and I will be done because I canceled my subscription when it runs out. It won't be renewed.
I was wondering if any women here have found an fwb on one of these sites and what did the guy say to you that hooked you?
Just wondering.
Thanks!
So I joined an adult dating to look for an fwb. I never realized what I had to go through to find one! There was one site that seemed to have alot of women from my home town! I thought some of them looked familiar even! There profile pictures were pretty hot showing the essential parts of their bodies and the few women who were clothed still looked pretty darn seductive, just the same.
So I figured, hell, almost nobdy has clothes on so my might as well upload a profile photo of the same but it never appeared and I received an email telling me it was denied. Flagged for being inappropriate and I am thinking about all the naked women photos I just looked at and I'm thinking, "WTF!" That's discrimination! So I uploaded a photo of my face and the rest of me has clothes on so I am sure the site owners are happy with that.
Now I don't think I'm a bad looking guy for my age but the women aren't exactly filling up my email with messages, in fact, outside of a few, one time flirts, I didn't get any. So I wrote a letter to the company and asked if my mail was getting through because I wasn't getting any responses. I receive a response informing me that my letters had indeed been sent but those women who received them did not open them!
It turns out that if you're a man, you have a huge disadvantage on those sites because the men far outnumber the women.
An insider told me that I have to send out a minimum of 100 messages just to get one response. So I've been averaging about 50 messages a day but have had no serious responses yet and I keep changing my messages and saying different things in different ways but nothing seems to work.
About 3 or 4 more weeks of this and I will be done because I canceled my subscription when it runs out. It won't be renewed.
I was wondering if any women here have found an fwb on one of these sites and what did the guy say to you that hooked you?
Just wondering.
Thanks!
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check out that smoke ring. It tasted really good. I smothered it with Maulls BBQ sauce which is Local to St. Louis and one of the best I ever had.....
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I was recently separated from my wife of 33 years and it's complicated. Anyway I rented a room about 15 minutes away and I see my kids about once a week. I see the people who own the house I live in once in a while but other than that I stay in my room where I do my cooking, wash dishes in the shower, read, color, and sleep. I get out at least once a day. I grocery shop and I attend 2 meetings...
I went to a dating website to see what they were like. It wasnt for me at all. The guys either seemed creepy, to full of themselves, or old. I realized that I wasn't going to be taking in someone else's garbage.
I think the only way I would find someone to hook up with is if I met them in person first, became friends with them, and then had sex with them. Dating sites are not something for me.
Disclaimer: I am no way calling you or anyone here creepy, full of themselves or old. Just observances I have made when opening up dating website pages.
I used craigslist , the casual encounters section to meet with both men and women.. it is far and few between with the women.. a lot of the ads are fake, and u gotta get used to reading them before you will finally know the fake ones at a glance... but there are some real. ive met other guys who have met women off there.
i dont remember what i or they said in the ads, but id say just be yourself, be honest in what your looking for and be careful. theres a lot of nuts out there.
craigslist.org. should have a city near you that you can scroll through
You might want to think of a good way to distinguish yourself from the rest of the men on the site. I think people make the mistake of looking at other profiles and copying what everyone else does. Then when a woman gets a message, it sounds exactly the same as the last fifty she's just read. Also, perseverance goes along way. Good luck!
Then there are other times I think, I may as well stay single. I crave companionship but yet I don't have much to offer except a big heart which does not seem important to many of them it seems.
ahh well. Thats life!
I was lucky to message one gal who later turned out to be a wonderful fwb. She was hot! lol And I'm nothing special looks wise.
She said it was the fact that I wasn't rude, crude, and crass like 99% of the guys that usually message her. We had things in common and were looking for the same thing.
Imagine being a woman on there and getting 100 messages a day. And 99 of them are one sentance lines about how they want to fuck her or "nice tits" or some other useless crap. If you are kind and honest you'll have a leg up over the majority of the douche bags on there.
If it can happen to me, it can work for you.
If this dost apply to fwb sorry. I'm not that say with it. But that's my experience.
another thing that I believe to be true ( might be wrong) is a lot of those hot half naked women ur seeing are fake profiles. they dont exist.
have u tried pof? . im not positive but I think its completely free for all.
and yes. each women that exists is getting slammed with messages. wen I was escorting I posted an ad on cl or backpage and within 10 mins I had 70 replies and climbing.
uts actually overwhelming...a LOT of work ..to skim thru all those emails sorting out the bullshitters.. the fraidy cats... the scary ones... and the dumb ones who didnt read the ad and sent me dick pics despite my asking them not to lol.....
at the end of 85+ emails..I was left with maybe 3 potential dates and chose based on the creativity and energy in their emails...mostly based on the first two.
try pof...make ur profile energetic and silly and appealing... give the ladies something to make them seperate you from the pack
I agree with MsViv. I need to meet the person, figure out if they are worth the time and effort and then sleep with them. Make sure we are even compatible for a FWB situation.