Oh, to me that's got giant red flags all over it. I haven't done that and never would - in spite of his offer to pay me :/

I mean, think about what's going to happen before and after the sex. Cuddling? Watching movies? If this is someone you had a loving relationship with, chances are that feelings are going to come into play and someone will get hurt.

I dunno man, seems like a bit of a paradox... You see...

You split up, so in theory you can see other people, but you're still sleeping together, so if you/her find someone else the other might not be happy about it (jealousy, STIs, weirdness etc), so what do you do? Make a rule that you're exclusive? If that's the case...

Why break up in the first place?

If you are both happy with 'the rules' of FWB that you decide between yourselves then it could work? But you got to stick to those rules or you're both doomed. I have never been there myself so it is jmo.

That's a big HELL NO!! Don't do it, no way! You'll regret that a week into it AND you'll feel horrible about yourself afterwards. Sure, you might get a little action, but you'll feel empty and disappointed.

I kinda, sorta did that with my very first girlfriend. I was done with her and yet, I let my wanker lead me to hell. And sure enough, hell sucks!!! Not a place I'd want to revisit.

...I'd like to add also, remember WHY you two ended things in the first place. Am I right in saying that she wasn't particularly courteous and respectful to you? In fact, wasn't she sort of cruel or do I have the wrong Bob?

Really think about it man.

haha!!! Alot of good advice here. Something to think about when I get horny lol!

Thanks!

I have to say bob that even though you may feel the urge to be with a woman take the time to think about it... Don't just think with your dick(sorry) but by doing this you may complicate your life. FWB may work for some people . If there were never feelings involved maybe? But chances are one of you may want or feel more and someone will end up hurt:( good luck with whatever you decide

lol Bob... Resist resist!!

Bob,

This may not sound or feel as good, but I've been masturbating for the last 10 years and I'm doing fine. It's been hard during this time, but I haven't contracted any std's or made any unplanned babies. On the downside, I've had an infinite amount of calluses on my peter during this time period, but this could even happen with your FWB.

Hey Hung,

No offense taken. I've always felt as though I could hold my own, so I don't think I've ever felt like a pussy.

Wow Mobi is gone already??? WTF that was fast:(

it would depend on the relationship. with your ex? i would run screaming. i think i would be more likely to take my chances bare-backing in the red light district in Amsterdam!

Nope ... not a chance.

Not a good idea. I have tried this twice before. Once with an ex and once with a guy I never dated. It was awful with the ex. I always felt empty and used afterwards. Even though we had been broken up for years, there were still those feelings of what was once there.
Now the guy I had never been in a relationship with, that was much easier, however, still not emotionally satisfying, I didn't feel bad afterwards. We could even spend the night with each other and then not talk for a few weeks.
I finally stopped that FWB relationship when I decided to look for a "real relationship"....still looking

Stbxh and I tried the FWB deal when we first decided to split up and it didn't work out for either of us. Even though we decided to split up, there were no ill feelings towards each other, there was no deceit, neither of us ever disrespected the other, we're good friends and will remain good friends. When we tried the FWB, even though the sex was good, we found there was too much history between us to go from relationship status to FWB status.

I think you're seeing a general consensus here Bob. I'd tell her that your penis is off limits. I'm betting she's the one initiating this, right? Don't man, don't!