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Don't know what to do

marytcontrary
marytcontrary
The very first time with a man as an adlut, I was nervous, of curse, but he was gentle. It has been years and I feel like I'm back to square one. The thought of sex now is overwhelming. I want it but I keep putting it out of my mind. Makes me think it will never happen again!!! Then I want to cry because I do want it. I'm messed up these days. No counselor for me-I don't want anyone to know. Maybe I could try a massage to help me get over being self conscious???
billwfriend
billwfriend
a male masseuse can help you with being touched again....but the sex thing you have to be willing to get out the box on...the box is empty and lonely....
cowboy357
cowboy357
With the right pressure/touch atmosphere a massage can be very relaxing for the mind & body..

It should relax you enough to be very comfortable with your own body & the person you're with.
MsViv
MsViv
But if you want a relationship, it doesn't have to start with sex. Getting to know a person and learning to be comfortable with them can lessen your fear of being naked with them.. And when you get to the point of sex, there are lots of ways not to be naked but appear to be. Sexy lingerie is always a good start along with dim lighting and or candles. Satin sheets, soft blankets.. All ways to hide what you don't want someone to see, or what you aren't comfortable showing..

You don't have to have 100 w LED shining on your body and be laying naked on a stripped down bed. And if he is in bed with you, believe me, he isn't looking at your faults..
marytcontrary
marytcontrary
I must admit I was sheltered for years growing up. I thought you had to be completely naked to have sex. It wasn't till a tv show, I found out you didn't have to be.
Thanks for the advice.
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