our age group Mary Lube is the mans best friend....LOL Hugs bill

Why would you become a nun? Because it didn't feel right?
I have had sex with guys who were great and guys who were really bad
Some who called back after first date. Some who didn't. Some I didn't want to have them call me back either.
But I have never ever thought that any of the encounters would make me want to become a nun or celibate.

Who knows. Maybe you might like it not so gentle.

When I was young, an even younger man asked me, "Do you like it rough?" I should have said, "Define what you mean as rough, then we'll negotiate." Instead I just said Yes.

You need to discuss your preferences on "roughness" and other
aspects of the act before you start. if you know someone well enough to engage in sex, this shouldn't be embarrasing.

I have been with women who wanted to treated like a delicate flower
and others who wanted to be "taken." I learned long ago that giving a
woman what she wants in bed is what gets you invited back for more.
He should not force his desires on you.

As far as being small there, you were designed to have a baby's head
fit [ not painlessly of course ] but I think a penis would have to be pretty big to hurt unless there is not enough lubrication or he is too rough.

I have learned that the same woman will change from day today....some days she may want to just lie and cuddle."which will often end in some masturbation of sorts" .Some days she wants to be made love to.".soft music, dim the lights, a bit of wine a lot of foreplay and teasing". And some days she just wants to F___!!!! plain and simple. Same lady different day...

Not to be indelicate but there was a time when I went to the dr and his speculium was too big and the nurse had to get the smallest one. That in itself was embarrassing!! If I had kids they would have been C sections. Some days even the toys don't want to fit and that does hurt. This is beginning to make me wonder if I should not try again.

Yorman - it can not only change day by day but minute by minute. it can start off just cuddling and end down and dirty....
:-)

I've had sex with a couple 'small holed' women,,, I loved it ! One of them wasn't too good at sex in general but that small tight hole made up for it.
15 yrs. later I only think of the good points of her..
her personality, beauty, small hole...

Ms Viv I hear you .....:)

MaryT,
I honestly believe you are worrying needlessly. Even a larger than
average penis just isnt that big.

Here's the scientific version of why you shouldnt worry. When a woman
becomes aroused the vaginal muscle tissue relaxes somewhat. This would not happen at the docs office unless you are aroused by a speculum , which would be pretty rare.

With proper foreplay , lubrication would also increase making insertion
even easier. Sometimes with age, artificial lubrication is required. KY
warming liquid is quite pleasant for both partners.

Now, just find a man who deserves the pleasure of your "tightness" and
rock his world.

Thanks Dogg75.

It's a self fulfilling prophecy. You psych yourself into being nervous and your muscles tense, leading to pain. Then you fear the next interaction and it keeps happening. The only way around it it to relearn how to relax. Start solo with toys. Use a lubricant, even solo. Wait to do it with a guy who wants you to be comfortable and be gentle.