Great post. Sometimes it can be easy to focus on what we don't want that we lose site of what we want. So, this is refreshing.

Outside of the importance of the mutual attractions, I like a man that knows what he wants and is not afraid to go after it (confident), compassionate and honest.

Also strong, fiery, passionate.

You only get three wishes koolman. According to research three wishes is all you need to live a happily ever after life with your chosen one, anything else is considered icing on the cake.

OK, Genie, lol, then I'll take the second three.

My best friend and his partner live a codependent existence. I asked them both last evening what three traits did they currently like about one another, and unsurprisingly one of them was unable to tell me as much. And yes, it was the condependent who was unable to, she is a very very very sad person, and as for him, well he happily cruises along at her expense.

They both struggled to remember what it was that attracted themself to one another, both had stories to tell as to why lol, and as for her, even her mother got a mention WHAT?

What, her MOTHER thought he'd be a good pick for her, so she went out with him for that reason and kinda settled in?

Attractiveness isn't considered a trait, it is more relative to infatuation and the reason why you was initially overcome by.

Attractiveness is considered an external feature, traits are internal features.

Attractiveness opens the door, traits allow you to sit and stay awhile

I couldn't have put it any better myself jaymee.

I would say independent, great sense of humor, and leader.

I don't want someone that has to have me around to do absolutely everything because that's how I want to go about my activities either. Be able to do things on your own. Don't mind if you tell me about them or even invite me, just be okay if I'd rather not. And I need to laugh. I saw a quote once that was something along the lines of "the worst mistake you could make is to let another man make your girl laugh." Obviously everyone has their funny moments, but sharp, quick wit does it for me. A leader to take charge at times and not allow themselves to be walked over. I've been with guys that get all sappy all the time and try to just let me have whatever I want and it's a huge turn OFF. Don't argue something with me just for the sake of arguing, but stand up for what you want and need too.