On a healthier note, I want to date someone who is addicted to healthy foods and exercise. My beautiful, talented (she's a musician) Hindu neighbor is a vegetarian. Sadly, she's already involved with some other guy. It's OK; she says he's a diabetic who makes no attempt to control his crappy diet, whereas I'm much healthier. All I've got to do is wait for her to get sick of being his caregiver, and maybe she'll jump ship to me. They're not married.

No I would not date someone who currently does drugs.

If they did drugs in their past but were now clean that would be fine.

I have had alcohol issues myself so I would also not date a drinker!

Curious as to what the point of this little poll question was... :P

My husband is a recovered alcoholic. Thankfully he was only alcoholic for over a year and I didn't know. He has been sober for 2 years now. As long as things are good, I am sure he will not drink, but nobody EVER has a guarantee that an alcoholic or drug user will not at some point go back to using or drinking. Currently it is not a fear I have and not something I think about, but there are thousands of alcoholics that would be sober for 10,20, 30 or more years and relapse. So would I date ANYBODY that is a recovered alcoholic or drug user? NEVER EVER EVER EVER. And pot can control your life just as much as any other drug. Some people smoke ciggarettes occasionally. Some people drink occasionally, some people smoke pot occasionally.... Others are addicted and can ruin your life, so I will NOT take a chance ever. Not that my opinion matters because I am still married, but if I should ever be single for whatever reason, and I start dating someone and find out they have been rehabilitated, NO WAY IN HELL, thank you very much. Never wanna go through that hell and abuse again.

Would you date someone who does drugs? Really? Would you date someone who beats the wife? Why would someone subject themselves to such a terrible mess.
Being someone who knows addicts I must inform you prescription drugs are being abused like heroin and crack. And if pain management is their reasoning be mindful when that no longer works things will begin missing. Like money, electronics, dignity, peace love etc.

Be careful. And are you a drug user /abuser?

I would date someone who smokes marijuana in moderation, even a few nights a week as long as they are still productive and put it down when it needs to be put down. I would date a social to moderate drinking as long as they weren't going out more than once or twice a week and didn't get drunk more than a couple times a month. I would not date someone who does harder drugs, too much money involved, the whole sleeping with the dealer thing, lies, it's too messy and too habit forming. I can't say I'd trust my girl doing coke after the bar at a fancy condo party and I can't say I'd trust my girl at a party on MDMA or Acid. If I was still interested in experimenting still maybe together might be a romantic activity but I would much more prefer my partner live an active healthy lifestyle. I'd actually like if she smoked a little bit but I don't want to date a huge pothead or a drunk. That's boring and expensive.

I was married to someone who "occasionally" smoked pot as he put it. I ended up finding out he tried to grow it. I had to roll out. My life style did not mix with his at all.

No.

yes but not a pot smoker.. the dopiness makes me crazy.

I smoke pot every day practically all day so yes just so long as it's pot and nothing else. I wouldn't how ever date someone who let's it rule their life. I work and go to school, pay bills and have a good head on my shoulders and I expect the same out of them. I've been smoking since I was 13 years old and had a 4.0 all throughout highschool and am doing well in college so there is no reason not to get things done. If you can't handle smoking and being responsible then I don't want to be with you

Thanks to all for your thoughts. My feelings most closely resemble Shine14's: I don't want to be involved with illegal drugs at ALL, and by extension, I don't want to be intimately involved with a woman who is.

I feel strongly about living healthily; I am sensitive to the smell of smoke (tobacco or other drugs); and the idea of putting a substance into your body that will make you disconnected from reality artificially alter your mood rubs me the wrong way. I believe in respect and tolerance towards others' beliefs and lifestyles. But when it comes to a life partner, I need someone who shares my feelings on this issue.

Regarding alcohol: I don't like the taste, and I want to remain connected to my feelings, not separated from them. So, I tend not to drink. I used to never drink at all, but these days, I taste things here and there (both because I'm curious about their taste, and because it's a way to have social connection). As such, I have a more lax view towards others' drinking: As long as it's in moderation, I'm okay with it. If someone wants to get drunk, I will not hang around them.

I realize this puts me in a minority in our larger society... but I'm not new to that in this world.

I'm not so sure those types of views put you in a minority - it depends on who youre spending your time with. If you feel alone in your views with your social group, its time to find a new social group.
You can find large groups of people who choose to live a healthy lifestyle and refuse to dump chemicals into their body.
It is also extremely important to me that my partner is not a user. My current partner is a recovering alcoholic, and in a funny way, that works out better for me because he is more strict with his intake than most people who havent experienced a struggle with it in the past.

And I also feel that I dont need to uninhibit myself in order to act like a fool. I do that just fine all by myself :)