I think it depends how serious you are and how strong your feelings are for each other. I also think it depends on what each of your expectations are with each other. I would talk to him about it and get a sense of what he's expecting or thinks will work.

I was in a long distance relationship for a couple of years. This was many years ago, before texting and the internet so we didn't have a whole lot of communication options. We wrote letters every couple of weeks, we talked to each other a few times a week, and at least one of those calls would be for an hour or more, with no distractions. We would also send little cards and gifts to each other all the time, like he'd make a batch of cookies and send them to me (how did I let that one get away, right??) or I'd make him a gift, like a drawing or a painting and send it to him.

We were very serious and very much in love with each other and so to me, there was no one else I really wanted to give my time to. If I knew he was calling me on a Thursday night, I made sure I was home on a Thursday night.

Here's the thing: with any kind of relationship, you have to put in effort to sustain it and to strengthen it. In my opinion, text message are not an effective means of communicating with someone on a personal and emotional level. But I do think if this works for you guys, then who's to say it's not enough.

Also, the reason we broke up is because after a couple of years, neither one of us was willing to move at that time, due to family obligations and jobs. After a while, even after putting in the effort, it's hard to maintain that kind of relationship.

Do you have a plan on how you will join your lives ?

First of all thank you for the responses. We have 11.5 hours time difference (so we are usually on polar opposites of any given day) and 9700 miles distance between us to navigate. So what we do for now in terms of communication is have twice a week phone calls. On the day that it's on a weekday, it's usually about one hour. On the weekend it's about 3 hours. In between we text each other atleast 2 or 3 times a day. This actually works fine for now because in any case right at this moment (and for a couple of months ahead) neither of us has the energy to do more because so much is happening in the other areas of our lives as well. Me with moving and settling in Sri Lanka again and re-establishing my career, and him with getting a new promotion and buying and moving into a new house. So with everything else going on it's exhausting to even try to do other stuff more than the phone calls and texts.

My fear was (is?) 2 fold:

1) Not doing the extraneous stuff and just coasting along with out twice a week phone calls...what if it results in us growing distant over time without realising it, and by the time we do realise it, what if it's too late...

2) On the other hand, I don't like the idea of forcing myself or him to DO the extra stuff because it'll exhaust us and make us feel like the relationship is a burden instead of a joy like it is now

As to how we plan on closing the distance eventually, we discussed that if we are still going strong in 2 years, we would get married and I would move :) We both do love each other very much despite the fact that the relationship isn't all that long (6 months). This is the best relationship we've both had and the connection that we have is something very special for both of us.

Oh and I should also mention that we are not planning on going the whole 2 years without meeting again. We thought we'll take the LDR slow and steady and if we are still going on by like August of this year, then we'll start making plans for him to visit Sri Lanka end of this year. And before we actually get married I would go to the US for about 6 months or so and we'd live together to see if that works out for us too.

Hello, so the man in my picture is my incredible husband. You could say Im a story of success with a LDR. My husband and I met in my home town while he attended college, we became bestfriends over the first year and started dating at the end right before he graduated and moved. First he was initially close by like an hour so we saw each other over weekends and began the normal skyping, texting, phone calls. He then was offered to join the Airforce as an officer and we decided he would accept. We had two factors that made it work. Mainly the Lord, God guided us through every obstical and gave us the strength we needed when we felt empty and weakened by the distance. Secondly, we loved one another and that love only became purer with time. We made lots and lots of trips whenever able. Most of our extra money went to visits as this was a huge priority and need for us both. We constantly enjoyed finding ways to live life together even while apart. The fact is that because we loved each other that meant we werent willing to give up over tough situations. So we never considered breaking up over the distance but were extremely thankful for all the ways we could connect. We didnt know right away when exactly we'd be together for good but knew that was the end goal. We were close for one year of friendship, half a year of dating and did long distance for two and a half years and have been married for about two years. Overall zero regrets. The distance didn't separate us at all but brought us extremely close. Our relationship is stronger than anyone I know. Thats not being prideful as we've had our share of struggles but we both are fighters for our love as we did so for most of our relationship. Distance will either make you or break you, i pray y'all will figure this out and find joy together. Now he is out of the military and we have a beautiful two and a half month old son. My life is more than I could ever have dreamt up. Sometimes in order to get the blessings we must sow into something or someone for a time and it wont be easy but worth the reward we will reap in the end. Also besides myself, my brother and his wife did long distance for like five years or so, very long time and they've also been blessed by it. You make it what it is.