I believe in soul mates. I also believe in the holly wood type of love because those scripts came from people who have experienced those feelings enough to write all the love stories and music out there. Someone felt the first valentines day and it came to fruition. It involves real people with real feelings, and if those feelings last, then you have your soul mate. Just because you've never experienced that type of love, doesn't mean that you have the ethical right to knock others around who are different from you...

Don't give up Christina, love will find its way to you...

Well I don't really do online dating or any type of dating at all.. I met this guy randomly on facebook and somehow decided to get his contacts, but it was one time only...

The truth is I don't really believe in this "love" bullshit anymore..

25 isn't old. Everybody moves at a different pace and I'm sure there is someone out there for you. Be positive, good things will happen!

I appreciate everyone's support but I made my decision to forget about this matter as I don't believe in love anymore, thanks anyway :)

that's such a shame but i have to say i understand where you are coming from. when you've been disappointed time and again it IS hard to believe in love. but i hope you will change your mind later when things get better and you start focusing on YOU and loving yourself more instead - forget those who hurt you, as much as it may be hard to - they don't deserve your thoughts - take care of you. and you really are so young to feel this way. i am positive you have so many wonderful qualities and so much love to give to someone who deserves.....who may even feel the same way you do - ?
try to hang in there!!!!
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i mean there is most likely someone out there who is thinking the way you do. and you will find each other. you may not believe that now and roll your eyes about it. but you never know....

well sweetjane i truly hope i dont change my mind ever as no guy is deserving and i am sick and tired of being fooled and hurt .. i do hope i can get myself out of self hating mode and go mess up with some idiots as well to see if they like being played and fool as well..!

i understand - i completely do. was there feeling the EXACT way you did. you need to go thru this anger - go thru it. get it out. BUT dont hurt someone who hasn't hurt you though ok? it will just be some domino effect and maybe even somehow get back to you again. ?

I don't see how it can come back to me, as I don't intend to have feelings for anyone, so it won't affect me at all, but I would like to do this in order to feel better myself.. I can't always be the fool.. I'm not just angry, I am like I could kill this specific guy right now if he was in front of me, I hope he gets a really long and miserable life because he deserves.. and I wanna be sitting and watching it with a big smile.. I just hope I can confirm soon that I am not pregnant with this prick's child as if it the last thing I want!

And I know it sounds like i am saying all of this out of anger but no I really mean it .. falling in love is a silly thing and won't happen to me again..

With your kind of attitude, about the only kind of guy you'll attract is an emotionally detached dork. The kind of guy who women divorce easily. Sweetjane up there is emotionally on a higher plane and is able to really hurting a guy, if she wanted to, but I don't think she has the kind of heart to do something like that. She'll find love again, I'm sure.

wow.

I too have found relationships with other human beings to be only partially satisfying.

I think it's more important to embrace a DEEPER love, a love that is found in some type of higher power, and also can be found by going into and connecting with nature, where the higher power is, and enjoying simple pleasures.

Instead of waiting for love to "happen" to YOU (which implies laziness on your part, a "coasting" on someone else's laurels), happen to IT. Love LIFE, passionately.

Sadly, I've found relationships with other human beings, for the most part, at least with people in my close personal circle, at the moment, to be about control, power and manipulation for personal selfish gain...bullshit. And that is not love.

An occasional honey I see sometimes is really in love with the almighty buck. She's making her own dough, and I'm proud of her, but I think she's missing the boat spiritually, killing herself, missing out on the finer things in life.

I've got an associations with two male buddies. One is more clingy, needy, demanding and high-maintenance than any woman I've met. The other is a spoiled child who thinks the world owes him a living. The third is, like the female honey, a workaholic, loves the almighty buck more than anything, and emotionally hardly warm and fuzzy (although, i do have to give him credit, he takes exquisite photographs of nature, so he obviously takes time to stop and smell the roses).

My own sensibility is: Life needs balance. Some work, some play, some excitement, some relaxation, but a genuine warmth and love of life, in all its pleasures, and even its pains.

Christin, gotta let go of that anger. Continue to allow yourself to be vulnerable...just with open eyes.

See other people objectively, the way they are, not through the rose-colored glasses, the veil, of your own longings, desires-! When you do, yes, you'll get angry, and getting angry is OK...but don't dwell on the anger. Simply use the anger as your sword and shield, but continue to be sweet to people who are sweet to you.