He might actually be telling you the truth, that he lost his phone-! Give it a few more days.

Did you call or text him and he didn't get back to you?

Maybe he's been busy, maybe he lost his phone or the battery was dead and he forgot to charge it, maybe he's sick, maybe he has other obligations and doesn't have time to call. It's only been 2 days since you heard from him, go about your everyday life and see what happens. If you don't hear from him in another day or two call him.

2 months isn't that long to be seeing someone to expect something back right away. I tend to do with my gut. You have a feeling if he is into or not. I also find that if guys are interested they put more effort in the beginning and I wonder if he is seeing someone else or he is making excuses. I would think if he lost his phone he could use someone elses to get a hold of you or send an email or something. It's ironic when you get those comments after 3 days of not talking. Yes, I give people the benefit of the doubt but it usually leads to a "it's you, not me" break it off conversation in my opinion.

Oh and don't reach out to him. See if he responds and that will show his interest level. You have to not expect so much in the beginning. People can come on strong right away but realize everyone has obligations where they can't text all day long. And to me texting is a very impersonal relationship.

Yes I tried calling once and texted and nothing. He ALWAYS gets back to me. The only time we don't text is when someone is sleeping. And he always texts me when he wakes up. I did go out last night. I didn't stay home crying about him lol.

How he is going to use someone else's phone to call me? I don't know his number by heart and he doesn't either.

Well that is true. Just don't reach out to him right now. He may feel smothered and wants some space. We don't know what he is thinking. Have him miss you a bit and if he is interested he will come around.

To me it's kind of strange when someone goes hot and cold on you all the time. If I ever lost my phone, I would still find a way to contact someone who I know would worry that I don't answer their messages suddenly. It is a basic human curtesy.

Can you tell me how it is strange? I'm just trying to understand. My friend who is very blunt and honest even told me he couldn't understand either. The guy told me personal stuff, like why tell me such personal things if you wont talk to me anymore. AKA how much money you make. That I think is private and you dont tell that unless you are living iwth someone or been with them a really long time, not after a month.

To me it would look like this person maybe has someone else and only responds to me when he is bored and doesn't have access to his " first choice ". I could be wrong.
I have never been in a relationship when someone did this, except for when the men had other prospects . Even with busy schedules and family emergencies my boyfriends ( who were genuinely interested in me) and I always managed to stay in touch and communicate.

I guess you will just have to wait until you hear from him again and see what excuse he gives you. I sort of wonder how you two text and talk all the time for 2 months but neither of you knows the other one's number? Really? If that's true maybe he just cleared his recent contacts and poof you were gone! Na I doubt that. The agree with borrowing a phone and hey you know what they still have the odd pay phone around these days too! See what he tells you and see how believable it is- ask him questions- like why he didn't borrow a phone to call you, if his answers aren't good enough or something seems fishy then maybe you shouldn't put too much into this guy. Curious- other than texting and talking do you two go out and do stuff together?

Does he have your e-mail or are you friends on any social media?

There are lots of details missing here for me to make a judgement.

I for one (and I know I'm an odd person) am not attached to my phone. I can go for days not knowing it is dead or misplaced. I enjoy the silence.

It does seem like there might be a pattern developing here. Keep mental notes on that.

Sorry Hon. Not enough information to really help you.

I have to worry about your title. "why do MEN do this?"

Women can be just as distant, uncaring and cruel as men, and typically are. This isn't a gender thing.

I guess what bothers me the most about these kinds of posts, is that many of the smartest people on this board, those that could give you the best unbiased help, either don't respond to them, or say something similar to what I'm saying, and ignore your question.

Now... about your content. "I feel stupid believing" that he was interested? That troubles me. Do you feel you are unlovable? And that it is stupid to believe that someone would?

I think this is far more about your own insecurities than this guy's actions. I might say work on the self esteem by yourself for a while.

as far as what he is doing, call and ask.... don't guess or ask us to guess. The mind is simply TERRIBLE at coming up with worst case scenarios, at least mine is.

Good luck!

In regards to us talking and texting all the time. His texts come up his name on my phone not his number. That is how I don't know it. It took me like 6 months to remember my ex b/f number lol. If he has another person or seeing someone else that doesn't bother me because I have seen 3 other guys since we have known each other Cruz we r not exclusive. But this week I wanted to stop because I'm starting to really like him. And he is brutally honest and would tell me if he wanted to stop talking that is what I get from him.