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I periodically lie to my wife when I feel trouble is còming. I want to tell her the truth but fear the consequences. She is my world but lying to her is hurting her and she cannot deal with it anymore. I don't mean to hurt her but struggle being honest. All she asks is that I'm honest with her without her having to drag it out of me. Help!!
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Look at what my best friend did with my picture!
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We all have 24 hours in a day. How we spend these hours is important. Watching a little bit of a video about how sitting affects us made me aware of how much sitting and laying down I do. Gonna have to work on that.Your turn. Tell me another truth.
If you struggle with being honest, as you say, and want to be an honest person, I'd suggest you seek the help of a therapist, and spend the months and sometimes years it takes to develop integrity.
Lying, and the reasons for it, is far more complex than just the will to stop. It requires a reconfiguration of your beliefs, with a dedicated determination to be morally responsible to tell the truth at all times, and respectful to people around you, at all times.
You ask why you lie, and I believe I can tell you why. You lie to your wife because you know that if you tell her the truth, you won't be able to get away with whatever it is you're lying about. It's a cowardly way of dealing with stress, and the foolish thing about it is, it actually brings more stress into your life, when you have to lie.
I wish you well.