Well no one is wrong for having an opinion or feelings. If what he is doing bothers you and he won’t stop after asking him then you have to figure out if you want to stay with him. What else is there to do?

I agree with what rmb has written thestruggle..... Feelings aren't right or wrong....

If you have children I think their wellbeing is imperative.... If he's abusing drugs he's not putting his family first.... there is good help for addiction available

Big hug.... This would be hard and painful...... xo

Basically he should want to

If he doesn't, why? If he's an addict etc join AA

Is it unreasonable to pick his friends? Mmm... I don't know... It's getting on dodgy rights territory. My bf hung out with compulsive cheaters with out a problem. I told him you don't want to have him stay in your house enabling his bad behaviour. Cheating makes him a bad person!

Apparently he didn't have him to stay in his house but stayed friends. I felt very judgemental and strongly about this situation

Christmas time this bloke was after his best mates sister and they all laughed it off seeing as she was telling them about it and all her bitchy blow offs ... They went out all got drunk which I also don't think is safe. Went to bed

Then were all woken up to get screams as he tried to rape her in the family home....

Perhaps now they make the connection between compulsive hurtful and disrespectful behaviour towards women and being a bad person.

But too late now to prevent harm.... They had the attitude of its bad behaviour I suppose but he's a friend of thirty years sooooo..... Regardless of his bad behaviour I got his back

And because everyone is like that,, loads of crime happens
With all the criminals mates saying they are good and innocent.

Perhaps this painful lesson can be told to your partner to educate him the wisdom in choosing better friends

But ultimately it's nothing you can control so accept that and detach
Tell him his lying makes him dishonest and that makes him have something in common with bad people and does he want that for himself
You've got to ask yourself if your getting angry and attacking in reaction to the truth is reasonable or if you need to let go of control of something

My bf gave me the impression he was lying at times previously. So I can understand why it bothers you

If he's arousing your jealousy unfairly he needs to accept fault for that

But I guess fb access is probably his right to access it

I don't know if he told you to end some of your friendships, not to use the internet and not to go out in the car without him

How would that make you feel?

He is doing bad things and shifting the blame onto you, plain and simple. There's no need to question your feelings or ask us all "why am I this way". Your intuition and feelings are probably spot-on and appropriate.

It's not you, it's him. Addicts will blame their bad behavior on whomever is available. Stop feeling guilty. Don't bother trying to talk to him, he won't listen and he'll just call you crazy. The only thing to do is end the relationship. By staying, you are enabling all his bad behaviors.