Come on Now! your only 24, it much to young to throw in the towel. Of course there are nice guys out there. Think about was interests you have and join a group or organization. You like to run for example you join a running club. There is alway online dating but at your age I would not think you could find a nice guy without going online. Desperate might be the problem. Even though it can be frustration a lady that plays hard to get is much more attractive at least to me then a lady that appears desperate and hopeless. Maybe it is just me but I like the challenge of a confident attractive woman. I wish you well.

Yes, there are many decent men out there, they're everywhere. Maybe you're looking in the wrong places or settling for less than what you want, jumping into a relationship by getting too serious too quickly before you really know the person or maybe you're ignoring red flags when you see them.

If you're always attracting assholes, figure out why that is, what is it about you that is attracting them and/or why are you initially attracted to them.

Know what you want in a man, what you want in a relationship, set boundaries as to what is acceptable, what isn't acceptable and don't settle for less.

I've had times in my life where I felt there were no decent women out there. What I came to understand was that I was driving away the decent ones with that very attitude.

so it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. If you expect to find "complete assholes" than that is likely the only thing you will find.

I'm a decent man, and I don't like talking to women who assume that all men are assholes.

It makes sense.. I feel like I am never going to find anyone so I would accept any asshole just so I don't die alone.. so yeah it kinda is my fault.. then I wonder why they are no good.. because I am willing to take any crap ..

But the thing is nowadays most people want commitment free relationships based on sex and no commitment, and I am really an old fashioned girl, who would like to take my time actually meeting a person before getting into that.. it just seems that, and at least from the guys I have met, guys just want to jump into bed and forget everything else.. love has become so hard to find ..

I am not the prettiest girl so it also makes it difficult.. I know looks aren't everything, but its the first thing men see. and you can be a great girl, yet if you are not so great looking, it can be a turn off. I also don't want online dating sites.. I have had a bad experience with a guy I met online, and I would not like to go through that again...

I just need hope and need to know that there are still good people out there.. cause honestly it is hard for me to believe right now.. and I never knew what love is .. and I would like to find out.. soon.

I ran into the same issue while dating after my divorce. That many of the women wanted SEX first, then a relationship afterwards.

And while I can understand that sex can be the last test of compatibility... I do see it that way, THE LAST TEST.

I'm certainly not old fashion, but I attribute an emotional attachment to sex and relationships that preclude involving others.

There are still decent people out there.

Oh, and we all die alone. But I know what you are saying. Try to not let that fear scare you into doing something you'll regret.

It is sad because I never had a real relationship with a man who loved me .. I did love one, but he never loved me, and I was used for sex only.

I just don't know where to look or what to do in order to change that. I know that my attitude can be a turn off sometimes, and I understand that I wouldn't want to date a guy who thinks all women suck, the same way no guy I tell this would like to hear it ..

I just never saw a decent one in my life, even my own dad, grandfathers, etc.. men in family were bad ones.. so my hopes are kinda down..

And I know it's absurd, I am 24, but I do feel that I am getting older and my chances get smaller day after day..

After reading you last reply I think you might think about counseling. I mean if all the male role models in your life were bad, maybe you need to work through that stuff. Maybe you need to focus on your career and or education (by the way to good ways to meet nice guys). It also sounds like you need to love yourself. If you love yourself and feel good about yourself you are going to attract like minded guys.

I don't mean to be harsh, but the truth is that good, decent, emotionally healthy guys who are capable of being in healthy relationships are looking for good, decent, emotionally healthy women.

Like attracts like. Become what you want to attract and you will have no problem finding the right one.

That's not harsh it's the bare truth. Thank you it's what I needed to hear.

I'm better off alone since I am crap who just attracts crap..

@scarlet

That was beautifully put.

Indeed.

You can be whatever you choose to be. If you have low self-esteem, lack confidence in yourself, lack self-respect and you don't want to be that person then work on your issues to change those things around and become the person you want to be.

I totally agree with you leatherandlace! But since I cannot fix my issues, and I cannot force someone to love me with all my flaws and problems, it's best to convince myself and be okay alone.

Not everyone can be beautiful looking, happy and full of self confidence. I am crap and it's normal I can only attract ones that are like me.

I needed to hear some stuff some said here, thanks for that ;)

Why can't you fix your issues?

I can't cause I am as I am. And if people can't accept that, I don't see why I have to change who I am for others to like me..