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I saw someone on television that said something interesting. They were talking about relationship and mention how emotionally unhealthy people attract other unhealthy people. While healthy people attract other healthy people.
I always knew an emotionally unhealthy person would be more likely to attract an unhealthy relationship, but his statement sounded like it was a foregone conclusion.
It made me wonder is it just better to remain single if you are emotionally unhealthy? I've always told myself I would like to remain single until I am in a better place, but sometimes I feel so alone and wonder if I am just making excuses because I am scared. Yet this statement makes me think I really would be better off single until I am more healthy.
The other thing it made me think of is how I usually attract unappealing guys. The guys who take an interest in me tend to come across as creeps or weirdos. Granted, I don't socialize much so I don't have the opportunity to meet that many men in general. But it made me wonder if this is a case of unhealthy attracting unhealthy?
I would like to hear other's thoughts on this topic.
I always knew an emotionally unhealthy person would be more likely to attract an unhealthy relationship, but his statement sounded like it was a foregone conclusion.
It made me wonder is it just better to remain single if you are emotionally unhealthy? I've always told myself I would like to remain single until I am in a better place, but sometimes I feel so alone and wonder if I am just making excuses because I am scared. Yet this statement makes me think I really would be better off single until I am more healthy.
The other thing it made me think of is how I usually attract unappealing guys. The guys who take an interest in me tend to come across as creeps or weirdos. Granted, I don't socialize much so I don't have the opportunity to meet that many men in general. But it made me wonder if this is a case of unhealthy attracting unhealthy?
I would like to hear other's thoughts on this topic.
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It is not recognized that a relationship generally complicates life, not rids it of problems and hardships.
Easy example - i know someone who had a miserable home life growing up, but instead of thinking hard about it and building a life for herself, she married the first asshole alcoholic who thought she was attractive. She had two children. He beat the crap out of her and the kids. Eventually he died. She married yet another asshole and had another child. He abused her and was a serial cheater. Eventually he left her.
This woman is now in her late 70s. She has no friends, no social life. All of her children are screwed up and perpetuating the cycle. Their children are also screwed up. This woman bread a whole village of dysfunction just because she wanted to fill that void.
It is sad.