There was a pretty good discussion about age differences not too long ago:

http://www.dahttp://www.dailystrength.org/c/Healthy_Relationships/forum/20712063-older-men-and-younger-women

Um, yeah, somebody else posted about this two weeks ago. Clearly it's on a lot of people's minds. OK, let's resurrect it...

I'm for it, of course, I being the "older" person, not really wanting to be with a woman 20-30 years my senior, but I do recognize the absurdity of THAT big an age gap, I mean, how can two pretend they have anything in common? Assuming we're talking 20-50, one likes club-hopping, the other is heading toward liking bingo.

As long as they're consenting adults, there is no right or wrong. If it works for them then it's right for them.

I know two May/December couples, one couple 20 years difference with HER being the older one. They've been together about 20 years, are very happy and have no more problems than any relationship has He was 19, she was 39 when they got together. They were on the same page with what they wanted in a relationship, they're future goals, it's worked well for them all these years and is still working.

IMO....as long as they are compatible, have the same future goals and are happy, why not give it a shot. If it works out in the long run.......great. If it doesn't, at least you won't go through life wondering if you passed up something that could have been great.

Old also doesn't equal getting sick and young equal being healthy.

P.S. Koolman........... The day I pick up a bingo card is the day I'll start digging my own grave. lol

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Wasnt aware of the other discussion as I havent been on in a while, thanks for letting me know though-- It answered my questions

I wouldnt mind hearing more though if anyones got more to say! :)

Thanks for your replies, I agree 100%.

There is no right or wrong answer as long as each person is on the same page on what they expect to get out of the relationship.

I think what matters most is connection and understanding. As long as age difference doesnt interfere with that I dont see problem with any age of couples getting together excluding children with adults or something insane like that.

That's fine but in 15 yrs as the 20 yr old matures and the older one can't "parent" the younger.. The relationship dies. Because what 35 yr old wants their 75 yr old hubby still trying to be her father

Agreed, Cali. I guess both can chock it up to a 15-year good run! Hell, even some SAME-AGE couples' relationships don't last 15 years!

Some are old souls in young bodies, some are young souls in old bodies, some are young souls in young bodies and some are old souls in old bodies. It really depends on the intellectual and emotional personality traits and sensibilities of two people as to whether they will hit it off or repel each other. For myself, I'd feel ridiculous in more than a 25-year gap relationship. She'd have to "help" me with the fact that I'd find it absurd. She'd have to have a gleam in her eyes and craziness in her mind for me. That would encourage me to gleam and be crazy back!

I don't want to be a girl's father--I want to be her friend and her lover--but I do like to exude a certain personal power, and I do have a certain level of a certain kind of life experience, so I WOULD become her father, unless she brings another kind of life experience to the table, like she's a mother raising her kids from a previous relationship. Except for nieces and nephews, whom I've spent a lot of time with, I don't have kids, so, while I've got a few ideas about child psychology--I was once a kid myself and know what worked with my nieces and nephews--quite naturally, I'd defer to her in the matter of raising kids.

Hey, Koolman, what kind of stereotype is THAT? A person 50 is "heading toward liking bingo" !!! Today's older people are not the way you remember your grandmother. I will be 70 in December and I do NOT go to bingo! And just because there's snow on the roof doesn't mean there's no fire in the furnace.

It was more or less a metaphor, LivingWater.

Let's all be honest. The attraction of an older to a younger is: Nice scenery and sex, sex, sex! And, as long as the younger doesn't mind, there's nothing wrong with that! The younger's attraction to the older is usually money, experience and/or needing a parental figure. And as long as the older doesn't mind, there's nothing wrong with that either! It's between the older and the younger. It's nobody else's business, except for those who want to be envious.

Why do you think that when speaking of this topic its usually about sex or money? Can't it be looked at like any other relationship?

Its harder I bet, but its possible.

In theory, sure you can look at like any other relationship. Whether that can translate into real life all the time depends on the couple.

I think it becomes mostly about sex and looks and money when a person only looks to be with younger people or with older people. I also think it depends on what ages your talking about? I mean, a 50 year old and a 35 year old together is different than say a 50 year old and 19 year old. I still believe when it comes to an older person dating someone 19, 20, 21, it's like you're not actually dating a full-fledged adult thinker yet since their brain development isn't complete at that age. So yeah, that is weird to me that anyone over a certain age would pursue someone that young. But that's me.

For me personally, I would not want to be with someone who could be my dad's peer or someone I could have given birth to. But that's me. I'm 50 and if I were single, while I like looking at attractive people of any age, there's just not that much that appeals to me about being with someone younger. And when I was young, it made my flesh crawl when an older guy would hit on me.

It all depends on the physical and emotional maturity of the two people. Having a lot of common interests helps.