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Me and my girlfriend have been together for two years but the last 6 months have been long distance. Naturally I’m not a very emotionally needy person but two months ago I lost my twin brother to suicide. It has been the hardest thing I’ve ever had to deal with. I go through stages of blaming other people , blaming myself, hating myself, and even anger towards him. It’s been a confusing time for me to say the least. My girl was being totally amazing coming to Texas to be with me and I flew out to Alaska 6 times in the last 6 months. Our communication was always great and we trusted each other. The last two weeks she has repeatedly lied to me and has been mentioning this same guy quite a bit. Normally I encourage her to make new friends since she’s in a new place so at first it didn’t bother me but when the lying started I became very uneasy and started having all these insecure thoughts. If either of us are expecting a busy day we let each other know so we don’t expect to talk much throughout the day. She hasn’t done that at all. One of our most important conversations happens before we go to bed it’s where we share our days talk about our plans and say our good nights. We prioritize these talks. In the last 3 weeks we’ve probably talked twice at night. It’s driving me insane because I can’t help but think I’m being too different now with the loss of my brother so maybe she can’t handle my emotions (even though I hold them in 90% of the time). This is someone I planned to marry. I’ve already started saving for our future but now I feel like she doesn’t want me at all. I try to talk to her and she’ll say “no babe you have nothing to worry about I’m just having busy days at work “. I even ask what’s up with work and she’ll say “just a lot of stuff”. Am I overreacting? What’s a better approach to have a real open conversation with her about our decline ?
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Ever since I stopped doing therapy because of insurance, I've been feeling that old tense and irritable sense of anxiety and stress. I hate that. I was making so many strides and changes during therapy, my therapist would acknowledge all of my progress and accomplishments, and I miss that reassurance. Today I thought about it, and I made those changes! She would always tell me that I chose to...
Long distance relationships are just really hard and they don’t often work. You have to work extra hard at communicating and taking time for each other so to me if the communication started lessening, it would concern me too.
I would say you need to be really direct with her about how you are feeling, Are for sure that she’s lying or just speculating? If you know for sure, have you addressed it with her?
Suicide IMHO is probably the hardest loss to have to deal with and I can't imagine a twin..... If you can and if you aren't already in one a RL support group might help you a great deal and or some grief therapy
When will you be seeing her again?.... I agree with rmb that if you think something is up a forthright conversation is in order however if you can have it face to face all the better
Big hug for you..... I hope that it works out......xo
two lies are facts I did approach her about them and she told me she lied because she thought I wouldn’t understand the fact like she enjoys going out every now and then which didn’t make sense to me bc in the past we’ve never had to lie about going out. We both do it so that was confusing for me. I’m planning my next trip in September but I’m hesitant to book it because I’m worried about finding out more things and I won’t want to be around her if I do.