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so i got a message from my ex fiance, recovering addict.
he told me he will be forever thankful for having known me.. and because he knew me he said he had been changed for good.
he used the lines of "for good" one of the songs in Wicked the musical.
I know i can not make any more speculations about what he truly meant with the msg, what his intentions are, things i will never figure, unless he openly and directly speaks about it.
But friends, what's weird is that I asked a specific sign from God. and he did not meet my deadline. I was specific with God this time. he was 13 hours late. but actually he had 8 months of not contacting me... a whole 8 months of opportunity to just say hi. I told God that if i hear from him past my deadline, there's no looking back.
But here i am, bothered. i still do love him. but i have made a covenant with God. and Love does not need to be confusing. God does not send confusing messages. I dont need to be confused.
The msg of my ex didn't sound as if he still wants me in his life. he just said thanks. i know that took some effort on his part. But i know i shd stop making excuses for him, nor rescuing him, to do better. to do the best.
appreciate your thoughts. A delightful 2015 friends!
he told me he will be forever thankful for having known me.. and because he knew me he said he had been changed for good.
he used the lines of "for good" one of the songs in Wicked the musical.
I know i can not make any more speculations about what he truly meant with the msg, what his intentions are, things i will never figure, unless he openly and directly speaks about it.
But friends, what's weird is that I asked a specific sign from God. and he did not meet my deadline. I was specific with God this time. he was 13 hours late. but actually he had 8 months of not contacting me... a whole 8 months of opportunity to just say hi. I told God that if i hear from him past my deadline, there's no looking back.
But here i am, bothered. i still do love him. but i have made a covenant with God. and Love does not need to be confusing. God does not send confusing messages. I dont need to be confused.
The msg of my ex didn't sound as if he still wants me in his life. he just said thanks. i know that took some effort on his part. But i know i shd stop making excuses for him, nor rescuing him, to do better. to do the best.
appreciate your thoughts. A delightful 2015 friends!
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check out that smoke ring. It tasted really good. I smothered it with Maulls BBQ sauce which is Local to St. Louis and one of the best I ever had.....
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I was recently separated from my wife of 33 years and it's complicated. Anyway I rented a room about 15 minutes away and I see my kids about once a week. I see the people who own the house I live in once in a while but other than that I stay in my room where I do my cooking, wash dishes in the shower, read, color, and sleep. I get out at least once a day. I grocery shop and I attend 2 meetings...
It takes a really looooong time for someone to change their ways, especially when it comes down to serious addiction.
You want to be with him, but your logic is telling you to do otherwise.
Unfortunately, feelings often do not co-incide with logic and this create a painful conflict.
I hope you will he happy, no matter what you decide.
After I did that, I would ask for a sign and I always got my answer with 48 hours....most of the time, it was just a few hours.
I will keep you in my thoughts and Prayers,
God Bless,