It wouldn't if it was about their son and his brother right

If you googled his name I would think an obituary would come up in your search results if he had passed away.

Did you have any mutual friend connections on Facebook? Or mutual high school friends you can ask?

Not everyone writes obituaries anymore, and they do cost money. So while that is a good way to check, it is not a surefire way to know for sure if a person has died or not.

Try reaching out to other high school friends, that's a good idea, but if you really do care about him then by all means take the awkward step of contacting his dad or brother, and very politely and with care state your interest in finding your friend. A lot of times people will really be thrilled to hear from an old friend - it feels really really great to know that someone has been thinking and caring about you over all the years. Even if they are embarrassed or find it awkward at first, even if you don't talk again, the mere act of reaching out and showing you care about someone after all that time is uplifting.

try this site...it 'really is free' https://www.fastpeoplesearch.com/ my friend passed last year, this is what came up with his name Age: Deceased (1954 - 2019) I don't think 'weird' fits the description of reaching out, rather perhaps '''how you are feeling about reaching out'''' sometimes I find myself driving myself nuts with what I Think and What Is Reality and the '''story/emotion''' I attach to the situation.....why not reach out to your best friend from high school? Best of luck!

It's true that lot of people don't have obituaries formally published in newspapers anymore (hard copy or online) but a lot of funeral homes will put on their websites any details regarding a funeral\ service Those would show up if you do a search on whatever name may be listed in their files or data..

Maybe he's still in the military and has for job reasons been keeping a low profile. Too sometimes people just shut that social media stuff down. If your friend didn't have a strong social media presence just harder to find people. There's other sites to try too that could give you hints but they're only as good as the information people add to them and your access, like Ancestry.com, LinkedIn, Court System databases, Classmates.com.

I've never had a Facebook acct. People look for me all the time apparently. I'm professionally on LinkedIn so they could find me there. But if they're trying to find me solely on Facebook, they're out of luck. They end up finding one of my brothers through FaceBook (we have an unusual last name and there aren't many with that last name in my city so it's easy to narrow down my relatives) and will ask them about me that way.

So, do agree to just reach out to his bother or dad. It may feel awkward or uncomfortable sure but ... I don't know. I do stuff that feels awkward and uncomfortable all the time, haha!

Good luck!

I have tried ancestory, classmates, linked in, facebook, and now the fast people search. I cannot find him!! It is as if he never really existed! I asked every one from my graduating class on facebook. One of them said she thought she heard he passed. The others dont have a clue.
I found a military site that honors all of the fallen that have served. And he is not among any of them. I dont want to contact his brother or dad because of how things ended after highschool. (The boys are twins and both asked me on dates. I didnt want to upset one or the other so just remained friends with both. It worked to remain friends till i married someone else. Then both of them gradually lost contact.
I will continue to search. Maybe search more military public record sights to see if i can find him.

I would write his dad or brother and just say that you're wanting to get in touch with your old friend and see what they say

I have gotten in touch with a daughter and did find out that my old friend had passed …. we had a few good talks about her mom... I felt bad but it wasn't awkward

I think she was glad to talk about her mom

I hope that he's alive and well though..... You haven't been in touch for a decade..... I wouldn't worry about being asked for a date back then...…

I'm now in touch with some people from public school …. It really is nice.... I hope that you can find some answers.....Big hug.....xo

Which is harder do you think for you....searching and searching or picking up the phone or writing a note....I hope you will find peace.

I had someone pay one of those search sites and find me. Long lost friend from a million years ago. I was not happy to be searched for and then found and then contacted so if you feel awkward about contacting his brother or his father, then set this aside for a while and rethink. This person who contacted me was so gung ho to renew our friendship and I had no desire to be friends, or really didn't even remember them. We dated briefly long long ago, never a spark for me, This person is lonely, strange, and apparently I was the one they pined for all these years.

I'm sure you are very concerned and at your wits end. Have you tried looking your friend up on people search on the internet? I have successfully had good results. I know it's been 10 years but do you know of other friends who may have an idea of his whereabouts? My last thought is to look him up online in the last county he last resided in. That might give you an idea if he's been in the area since you last talked with him.

Sometimes we build problems up to a point where they don’t need to be.

Take the plunge. Ask his family. Worst they can do is say no. As people get older they most often soften.

At least you will have closure, or exhausted that avenue of investigation. That ought to give you some peace of mind

I have contacted the alumni director of our school. She said she was looking into things. She will get back to me when she knows more. I am hopfeful. But also dont want to butt into his life if he is happy someplace.