I am new to this group. Iv been married twenty two years. My husband is very good looking ,loyal, a great dad and a great provider. But he is not a very good friend and a selfish lover. He is super selfish when it come to me. He is an recovering addict. To pot , my scripts, or whatever is on his mind. Fishing,golfing every season of baseball, basketball, an football if his team is winning. Things were real bad for the last five years. I patiently hoped and prayed. He thinks he should fish every chance if a friend takes him, he's been going every Wednesday nites, I didn't complain. He watches games on TV at the cost of time with kids and myself. I barely say anything. Iv been begging him to get off couch and all of us go for. A day trip, or a walk or to lake or fish off land . Nope. He won't take the trash either. Just the couch and friends invites and tv. He took off sat nite didn't come home till six am. (Fishing with a friend) but he didn't tell me . And on top of everything we are in a church band and on worship team. This just started 4 months ago. I feel like a pet dog. Since he's been home from the all niter he's texted me the next day. (I'll buy you steak dinner) he offered to take me to a movie right then I knew he was only asking to take me because he thinks if he gives me a treat I'll not mind him leaving me alone to go be with fish buddy. He only does something nice to get whatever he wants in return. He won't touch me hug me or kiss unless he wants satisfaction. I'm relly hurt and tired of it . The only time he takes us so where is if it something he wants to do like go to baseball game. We've been to anger counciling, he has only single or friends that r way more selfish then him. So he'll tell me I'm so lucky he's not worse. He has munipulated my ability to have friends of my own all these years. I really could use a chat.