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jessekay
jessekay

You know, I was thinking about that, and my goal was to have a relationship, but if it's not the right relationship in the other person, takes advantage of that I have to realize that that person wasn't right for me in the first place it's a nice thought to have someone special or significant other but maybe the timing just isn't right for me. This gives me a good time to just work on myself and be thankful for what I already have in my life. I have a few good friends and I'm very close to my family, I guess what I'm trying to say to my inner self is that you don't have to have some one  to be happy 

rmb
rmb
Love it!
jessekay
jessekay
Ty
finallyawakenow
finallyawakenow
One could say that without being grateful and comfortable in your own skin, a real relationship won’t bring happiness no matter who it is.
One of my greatest pleasures in life is taking a walk down some country lane or trail by myself. I think when we embrace holding our own space that energy becomes attractive to the right people.
Sounds like you got this:) well done
jessekay
jessekay
I think you’re right in a lot of ways I think just enjoying a stroll a walk nature yes I’m definitely taking advantage. I’m just appreciating myself more. Oh yes, and I’m learning to love myself more so comfortable in my own skin is pretty much you nailed it but yeah, I realize I deserve better than this, so it’s a give-and-take. I’m willing to wait
serenityspeaks
serenityspeaks
I kinda at the point that I realize I need to be content within myself. I mostly had the wrong type of relationships and love. I feel
Like for me at 44 it’s first time I am fully working on me. While I can’t say I am where I need or want to be I am certainly at a peace state as far as being alone. And I know it’s not a time to deal with another human outside of my kids or friends.
jessekay
jessekay
Yeah I agree with you I think you have to do what’s good for you happiness and peace and if that what you’re comfortable with than all the best
hasty_05
hasty_05
To pick just any person to be in relationship with usually brings on a lot of heartache. We don't really know them well or they turn out to be a user or abusive. I think we have to be in a good spot ourselves to be able to be a good partner in a relationship. I am watching a relative be in this codependent relationship and I feel so sorry for the partner. My relative is a user and their partner does everything for them. I am not sure if my relative actually loves the partner or just needs them for a lifestyle. I think it is better to be alone than to be used or abused.
thetrueyou
thetrueyou
there are times i want to be alone, and not in the relationship i am in.. then there are so many more times, i really enjoy her. So , i am doing both, i speak to her and say, i need to be alone for a bit, so i take and afternoon at the beach.

living with someone allows you a lot of time to really see the waves you put out about yourself, its like they are mirroring all the things that keep you from your own grace. So... i watch them, listen to her, then go sit with them in silence. Then come back with dinner.
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