BTW, I don't really think what your ex husband did was healthy -- i.e. The head turning when a sexy woman came on the television. There needs to be a healthy balance and an understanding there are other sexual beings on the planet and that's OK.

wow!! VERY valid point that we were friends for so long he may not even think anything of it. The dynamic has changed to dating so that changes things but he may not see that. Oh ya...we are exclusively dating. There is no question there.
SO do just women get upset at this or would you men feel the same if you had this happen in reverse? Or would it not bother you to hear and or see your girl/wife checking out hot guys?
Anyone?

As a guy, I like to keep the lines of communication open, even if that means hearing my GF is attracted to other men. If her and her sister made a comment about some cute guys it wouldn't bother me in the least.

There are times it might bother me however. If her and her sister did it all the time or went into prolonged discussions it may annoy me. It may also seem disrespectful in certain company.

My fiancee does the same thing. Or used too. His best friend is single, and incredibly girl shy, so whenever we were all out together he would use the excuse of a wing man to look at other girls. I tried talking to him about it, and he told me I was thinking into it too much. That he wasn't going to be doing anything with these girls. But I had put on some poundage(we have an 8 month old daughter) and I felt horrible after he would point out a cute, skinny girl to his friends and they would talk about how nice her rack was, or what not. And it made me feel unimportant and embarassed that others would look over and see the man I was with admiring another woman so obviously.

Finally, after a billion talks that didn't sink it, I turned it on him. We would be in the mall and a guy who was even mildly attractive would walk by and I would blatantly check him out and make a comment about his butt or something loud enough for others to hear. I would nudge my SO and point out these men. He got the hint and finally we had a talk about it where he listened.

Now he is more discreet. He still does it, but I'm sure he thinks I don't know that. And I also had to let myself lighten up. When the three of us go out I point out girls. John(his pal) noticed that as a woman I could tell him more about a girls personality by just looking at her. Not always right, but right way more often then my SO was.

So both of us had to bend. It is something I have come to terms with, and he has realized just how much it hurts me when he makes those comments so he is doing his best.

Thought I would update on this. I took all the advise and some of my own thoughts along with the Bible and talked to him about this. He took it very well and was sorry. You guys all helped me and we will see where this goes. He appriciated me talking to him like an adult and not waiting until it happened again and I blow up. He was embarrassed and didn't even realize how it affected me. We really haven't had the opportunity to give it a test, LOL!

I agree with onetoomany, it's immaturity.

I have a guy friend (yes, just a friend) who has that habit. Of course it doesn't bother me as we are friends. However, he did say that when he dates, he makes it a point NOT to do this as often or overtly as he knows it can be hurtful. I hope your guy can realize this. I know many men look alot and as I see from the posts, it's the way they are programmed. I don't think it's a judgment that you don't look good enough to him. Have you tried mentioning that this bothers you? Maybe if he is aware, he will learn to be more thoughtful. Maybe just mention it the next time you're out & he does this.