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lostinthecycle
lostinthecycle

So I am just getting into the "dating" scene again after being out of it for 15 years. I have been talking to this guy for around a month now and a select few friends know about him and keep asking what he is to me. I've said just a friend. So I guess my question is what would you tell people if you were asked. Situation is we have both said we like each other, we hang out multiple times a week and talk every day pretty much all through the day as it permits. When we are together we kiss and we cuddle as well as just talk and neither one of us is seeing anyone else nor do we plan to. BUT we both have said right now we don't want the title of boyfriend/girlfriend as we feel it may add unwanted stress and such to our situations(he just got his kids full time perm and I'm still dealing with my separation etc). So friends? Lol


I'm kinda laughing as I type this because I am in my 30s and feel completely lost

rmb
rmb
Maybe tell them you are seeing each other and leave it at that. Friends don’t need know who he is to you. I was single most of my 30s and I remember my friends being sort of obsessed about my dating life because they were all in serious relationships or married. It was like sheesh, what I do isn’t for their amusement or curiosity.
lostinthecycle
lostinthecycle
That's why I figured if I stuck with just friends that it didn't lead to more questions. The ones I have told are quite honestly my closest friends and I know one has strong feelings that I'm moving too fast given what I went through with my ex and the other is happy for me and says that she feels it's more than just friends. I am definitely not holding ant expectations on where this could lead but the friendship I am building with him is awesome.
rmb
rmb
Sounds like both friends have good intentions. The friend who says you are moving too fast is just trying to look out for you. I’d just tuck what she is saying in the back of your mind. She may not be wrong but you ultimately get to decide what you want. You mentioned being separated. How long?
lostinthecycle
lostinthecycle
We separated last year for a while and now it's over and I've started divorce proceedings. It's been just over 3 months now. But emotionally/mentally I had been out of my marriage for at least 3 or 4 years but kept trying to make it work for all the wrong reasons.
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