Getting back together with someone once you have already broken up can be tricky. I almost did it, however was unbelievable relieved when I decided against it. Providing there was good elements to the relationship, it's naturally to only remember the good things and to want to go back to them. It's like a coping mechanism and everyone (minus sociopaths) go through it.

The sleeping with someone else thing is a bit different. It depends on the circumstances, if he slept with somebody the day after you broke up then it is a negative reflection of his character. However if a period of time had elapsed than he was free to do so, providing he wasn't leading you on about getting back together when he slept with the other person.

So if you can get past the sleeping with somebody else element you just have to really analyse why you broke up. There were reasons for the breakup, sometimes those reasons may have been wrong. If they were good reasons to break up then they will resurface once the happiness of getting back together starts to die down. Maybe you have both changed and the reasons you broke up aren't an issue any more. I don't know the reasons so I can't make a judgement on that.

But those are the two things you need to analyse. Was it acceptable him sleeping with somebody else? And have things/people involved changed enough to ensure that the old problems with the relationship won't resurface?

Hope this helps and you make a decision you are happy with. Like I said I went through something similar so if you want to discuss it more feel free.

Big hug jrc…… I guess I would consider why you broke up in the first place.....

What was going on..... How long had things been not right?..... Has anything truly changed?


I would take some time to sort through it all and I wish you well......xo

only recently i had been feeling this way and he ended due to him being scared and going through depression and not being able to talk about it. we have actually changed and growed for the better and thats why im so confused and scared to as why i feel like this. he slept with someone later on after breaking up not right away so i feel like i cant be mad but yet he is the only man ive ever been with. so am i being resentful? im so confused

It can be very hard being in a relationship with a depressed person. I know I was in a relationship with a depressed person, and I was also depressed whilst in the relationship as well. If he is the only person you have been with it makes sense that you would feel a little resentful, but ultimately it happens. So I guess it comes down to how much you have both grown. It's a tricky situation because even if you have grown you can't really gauge where he really is with his depression. I hope you figure things out.

I know you are so much confused right now to make a trust or not on him. You can simply do one thing ask your bf directly is he slept with anybody? if he said yes then I think you have to give one chance to him. If he again repeated the same thing then please do a break-up and you have to move on. Because there is no mean to stay in a relationship where respect and trust are not worthy. After breakup still, your bf begs you to come in relation then also you stick to your decision dont fall on his emotional words or anything.

It hurts to be cheated on even if you are on a break or broken up at the time because it seems like your heart was still invested into the relationship at the time he did that to you. He could be giving you support out of guilt but to me it seems as though the person inflicting pain is also willing to be the healer and support and that doesn’t add up to a healthy honest closure about this. If you’re not sure how those actions shifted your feelings I think taking time for yourself and being honest, no matter how scattered you may feel about it all will help give you some clarity. If you decide to work on it with him moving forward set some healthy boundaries and stick to them and make sure he knows this is his fight as well.