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middleman101
middleman101

Just thought I'd try this out. Relationship: We are all made for relationship. But after being told I'd not be loved by anybody outside my family among other heinous things by a parent having strong tendancies of narcissism, who I've forgiven as I suspect a mental health problem or an unhealthy excess of narcissism. So now what do I do apart from online relationships? How do I make f"f relations work with the residue from such a parent?

Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
HI and Welcome middleman... I'm glad you found us!!
I would recommend some therapy.... Being brought up by a narcissistic parent is bound to leave some serious scars ... Narcissists suck the life out of you
You can rebuild the ego of your inner child with some help.... Big hug and a blessing....xo
thecaretaker
thecaretaker
I would suggest you listen to a couple of Lisa A. Romano's videos on Youtube.. good luck
middleman101
middleman101
thank you. :)
Lenoire
Lenoire
Personal interest groups are an excellent way of meeting people that you have something in common with. Taking continuing education courses also puts you in a place to meet like-minded people. And volunteering for a group that you have interests in offering help to, also provides an good opportunity to connect with people that you share a common interest with.

To answer the other part of your question. Since you're already highly familiar with the personality type, it makes it easier to become alerted to someone who displays such characteristics. Whenever you find yourself in their presence, play along until you can take your leave, then make every effort not to engage with them again; make it a rule. You'll only be letting people you enjoy into your life, and with time, that circle grows, filled only with like-minded individuals, who know how to enjoy life without putting people down, deceiving or manipulating them in any way, ever.

Wishing you well.
luvmygirl4
luvmygirl4
Meetup.com if they have a group in your area.
Or join a service club or Masonic lodge or something.
middleman101
middleman101
Thank you all. I shall be considering the above suggestions. :)
ltwist
ltwist
Middleman, I can relate to the narcissistic parent issues. I'm not happy about how long it took me to figure things out....but the point is we do figure it out. And when we do and make efforts to separate and better are lives.....that's when things really take a turn for the better. Some good ideas here. It will take some work on your part though. You may need to push yourself out of your comfort zone to get engaged in these activities. Takes energy and time. And I totally agree with Lenoire....be diligent on who you let into your life. Be open but selective. Good luck!
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