Ok. I've been with him for almost three years. Six months in, I admittedly twisted his arm to come to a wedding with me instead of his friend's giant Halloween party. The party was a really big deal to him and there were a lot of friends there that he hasn't seen since.

On the other hand, the wedding was very important to me because I have a large Italian family that would have reacted extremely harshly if he let me go alone. I felt that if my family saw him in a bad light, then they would make the relationship difficult for me (past experiences have taught me this).

Fast forward to today. He has a vending business that I help with on some weekends. We are supposed to work this weekend, but my father's family meets on Palm Sunday every year and then an old friend called out of the blue saying that he was throwing a mutual friend a surprise birthday on Saturday.

Now, when I brought these things up to my boyfriend, I wasn't going to go, HE is the one that said, Oh, no problem hun, I find someone to cover for you. And I say no, I'll be there. I'm bummed, obviously, but I'll be there for you.

Then when I asked if he found someone to cover for me, he says no, but it doesn't matter and he'll do it himself. I obviously said, that wasn't acceptable and that I'll cancel with my family and friends, no problem.

And suddenly, me working was unacceptable to him! He was yelling at me to just go and that he didn't want me there. THEN he starts in with the snark, talking about "I'm not making you go to a wedding" and "it's not like you'll never see your friends again"

And even though I was willing to cancel on my family and friends BEFORE all of this, (and I'm still willing) he's yelling at me to get out and not to come this weekend.

I called him a manipulative asshole and now I'm here. Talking to the internet because I don't have any close friends and my family will never let it go if I call them and complain...you know the old adage, Never complain to your family about your spouse, you'll forgive him tomorrow, but your family never will.

So...there it is. I feel manipulated, like I'm supposed to keep feeling guilty for making him go to a wedding almost two years ago. He doesn't do this with anything else, but we always fight if I want to go to a family thing and doubly so if he should go too. And things explode if there is a conflict with his business.

I just wish he would let go of this grudge against me. It's a huge strain that takes days to get out of. Am I idiotic for dealing with it? And he just won't talk about it...we are at an impasse. He won't forgive me for making him go to the wedding and he keeps bringing it up during fights.

Thanks for listening.