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moody boyfriend

alandahl
alandahl

Hello all, so i have been dating my boyfriend for a little under a year. 2 times a year we go long distant for a couple of months do to work and such reasons. When we go long distance he becomes extremly moody. All day today he has been telling me he misses me when he doesn't talk to me and all kinds of other stuff. Later in the eveing i strted stressing out about something that was totally out of my control at which point he had gotten all mad and said don't worry about it and its not my buisness, which is true but one way or another its going to effect me. He then proceeded to say ill talk to you tomorrow and basically hung up and that's the last time we will talk tonight. Sometimes his moodyness makes my anxiety so crazy and i wish icould just understand what he is thinking when he gets like this so it would be a little easier for me to back off and stop thinking so much about it. 

Osheana
Osheana
Find a time when he is upbeat and tell him how his mood swings directly
affect you.Also his moodiness is his way of handling his emotions in any given situation
.It is not directed at you,You are taking it personally and while
it is understood why this can make you feel anxiety more directly- you have to be logical,This used to happen to me- if my significant other would not sound
happy Omg I immediately would think he was mad at me- nope had nothing
to do with me.When your boyfriend gets in his little mood unless he says its about you- dont sweat it and give him some space.Moods pass.
Above all Stay Positive, Upbeat when it is long distance and focus on Positive Loving Energy. Hugs- your good no worries,
Kamari3
Kamari3
Hey, I feel you. You know how people say communication is the key to a healthy relationship? Well it's a start. When he's in a good mood talk to him and tell him your thoughts and how his mood swings are affecting you emotionally and maybe mentally. Conversate with him about the good and bad and who knows maybe he will understand where you coming from and change.
LettGoBreathe
LettGoBreathe
He is probably feeling he can't open up to you about his problems without you over reacting... Try to just be someone who is there to listen, and don't try and fix everything and get worried. It will make him not want to be open with you and start hiding things from you.
rmb
rmb
The example you give sounds more like your stress and worry is frustrating to him and so he shuts down. Not excusing it but it might be worth exploring if his moodiness usually correlates to when you are amped up.
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