Will you be getting any premarital counselling?

When you say you can't ask questions is this something that you want to do? or has this been arranged for you? if you don't mind my asking

This was arranged for m

And yes I want to ask questions

Ask away a lot of us have been married before or are married now.... I wondered if you've met the man you are to marry?

I met him before but do not know him well. I want to know what happens like on the wedding night. Nobody talks about it and I cannot ask.

Do you have married sisters or friends you can get some help from? I just wonder if someone closer to your age within your culture can give you some guidelines.

Also you can find a lot of information online about what to expect the first time you have sex (assuming that’s some of what you are concerned about).

But I agree, you can ask here as well!

Hello,
It would be helpful if you can attend premarital counselling. It will prepare both of you and will learn everything you need to know about handling relationships. Articles online is also a good resource.

Congratulations! Keep us posted. God bless.

No he will not do counseling; I should not even be on here. Where I come from we are not allowed to ask or seek help outside.

I would look up info online about a wedding night within an arranged marriage

I have worked with many people when I worked in Community Health who's marriage had been arranged by their family and many of them work out really well as expectations start with 'liking' the person as opposed to 'being in love'.... Feelings grow over time

I imagine intercourse will happen or may happen so deciding in advance about becoming pregnant may be something you want to think about...If you have concerns of fears you should be able to discuss this with your husband

I hope that your future husband is a kind and gentle man who you will be very happy with..... big hug

I just did a quick google search on "what to expect on a wedding night within an arranged marriage." A LOT of articles come up. And also, several different on online groups that discuss the question. You don't have to participate in those but you could read some of the stuff people have posted or commented on. So maybe start there?

Hope that helps. It doesn't negate the lack of conversation that couples should have but hopefully it helps fill in some gaps or eases your anxiety just a bit

Congrats

talk to your girlfriends or siblings is what I would suggest, if you can

I heard that arrange marriages, if the parents are choosing from their heart and not pocketbook, are more successful then when we choose our own

I did choose my own twice, didn't work out. If he is kind ask him