I think it depends how you feel about him. Do you think about him a lot, want to see him, want to talk to him, feel butterflies about him, etc.... or is he just "okay" and something to pass the time for now because you are on lock down?

You said you were giving him another chance at a relationship because he had shown you changes and effort? Does this current behavior show that he is making the effort now?

You wrote that you've tried to rationalize his current behavior, but you don't need to make any excuses for him, He is choosing his actions or lack of actions.

I'd probably just leave it alone, and if he contacts you, see how you feel about him then. You don't have to settle. Especially in the beginning of a relationship. That is the lovey dovey time and lots of communication and both wanting to get together all the time.

Definitely proceed with caution with this person because how you already gave him a second chance, is just my opinion. He doesn't seem that grateful for the opportunity. However, you reason it's the virus. Okay, sure, that could be. But now things will be opening, So maybe see the effort he makes once life is getting back to normal.

I had a similar experience with someone before and everytime I started to be distant with him because he stopped trying only then would he make promises and try to change his behavior in the end I just moved on. I gave it time well over a year but I kept my options open and found someone who put me 1st and made an effort I didn't understand why it was so hard for the other dude who claimed he wanted something. I decided to him I was an option and not his choice because even if someone is busy it takes only seconds to send a message and say "how are you I was thinking about you " the guy I'm with now works long days sometimes double shifts and still finds a way to make me feel like I matter . COVID or not .

So my advice is keep your options open you can reach out to him and try to initiate a conversation but don't chase him if he is dry or dosent respond take it as a sign .

I would just move on and forget about him. If he is doing this now, what will he do if he is in your life and you do something he does not like. I felt red flags about him. Something does not ring right. Maybe he is still married and was playing the field. You never know. I talked to a few guys like that and that "something is not right" feeling was there from the start. Trust your instinct. You deserve better than that. Disrespect is not something I or you should accept. You deserve better than that. I am sorry that I am blunt, but I wish someone would have done it before I married my ex. I ignored that gut feeling about him too. grrrrrr Stay safe, stay strong, you will be fine. Hugs

I agree with above posters...you have been patient enough. With everything open again, he should be excited to get out and about with you. I dated someone with kids, same ages as mine, a few years ago, and he never treated me like a priority unless I was threatening to dump him. I finally dumped him after several instances of what I felt was shady behavior and not making me a priority. I found out some of what he was doing behind my back, and I concluded he's a very passive man. Other women were chasing and asking him out, and he was going, even though these women are unattractive. Some men just don't know how to be men. Perhaps that is the case with your guy, if you would enjoy micromanaging him then do so, otherwise if you want man who knows how to treat a lady, I would cut this guy off.

Thank you all for your input. While we love each other, and have talked about a future together, I just don't feel like I matter right now and when I tell him all he says is he's sorry. I'm tired of the talk, I need to see actions that support words. Every time I've dated someone I felt like they wanted to be with me, but low and behold, after a couple months together I don't get the same communication. Maybe that's how relationships are, or maybe I'm high maintenance wanting to speak with a guy every day. Never had normal so I'm not sure what it looks like.

I agree you need to go NC and focus on your own self grow and healing of your soul.
In your journal write down everything you would like to do being single, and every where you want to go being single.
Then write down why to each one.
Finally write down everything you can do that is silly while being single, and very thing you can do that is super serious while being single.
After it is all written down read it all over again with a pen in hand and circle anything that speak to you about yourself.

I believe he is showing you the real person that he is. Who he is and how he is. Doesn't make him a bad guy, just makes him who he is. Let it go. And let's be honest, this current relationship is just a few months old. That is not long at all, although maybe to you it feels more permanent. You may want closer contact than he does. He may like having you pay attention to him, it is the paying attention to you that he can't do, or do well. Maybe you have slipped his mind. Maybe you are not as important to him as you think you "should be". All of this is okay and just a lesson in life. Go back to knowing he is showing you who he is. There will be others to date and meet in the future. Let this fish back into the pond. If he wants your attention, he knows how to find you.

Wanting contact every day is not high maintenance. That's a good expectation for a serious relationship, which is obviously what you're looking for. Good for you.

I'm sorry you're feeling discouraged, I understand. But don't give up; there's a guy out there who will want the same level of commitment and relationship that you do. Who will want to be with you every day for the rest of his life. Don't settle for less than that. God bless

I agree with atpeaceMary. Go with your gut. I didn't listen to my "little voice inside" and married someone wrong for me. Although I have my son, I went through a lot of pain. You deserve to be treated better!

It means the communication wasnt working because someone was not committed. I think the situation is making this man depressed, depressed people are hard to communicate with.