wow, that is a control freak. If he does that now, what do you think he will do later. Think long and hard on that. Do you want to be at his beck and call. I would change the locks, tell him to hit the road and block him from all social media. Get therapy to find out why you are accepting such disrespect. I lived through hell for 25 years with such a character. In the end, I divorced him. I have been in a way better place since. He is a classical narcissist. The classical aggressive/passive behaviour. It will be hard but you can do it. Learn to love and appreciate yourself. Hugs and stay safe.

You need to walk away and it’s hard to do that but he does not love you if he did he would respect you!! When you say no he would respect it and not guilt trip you!!

The fact that he can and does pull back and tell you NO means NO, yet he continues to do what he wants when you try to tell him the same does indeed tell you he is a control freak and is only interested in his wants and needs.

I think the others are right that he does not respect you or even consider your wants or needs. You would be smart to break free now before things get worse. You do not have to be obedient and compliant when it is not what you want to hang onto a man. When that is the case, they are far from what you should want or need.

You deserve better. Hugs, Kim

I agree with all the comments other users have left. I am really alarmed and concerned for you if you stay in this relationship. Say no means NO and stick to your guns girl and if you can't do that .. run like hell from this man. He has control over you even now, imagine how he will be in a years time and how much damage he will have done to your self image & self respect .. the list goes on. You are WORTH so so much more. Run girl run.

Thanks y’all. I do want to have a serious conversation with him before I do anything I might regret. I’m hoping he just doesn’t see how pushy and controlling he is being. If he’s not willing to change though then I’ll have no choice but to leave.

Well, start packing my friend. As my late mother used to say "a wolf will lose his fur before he loses his habit." It loses something in the translation If he does not respect you now, when you say "no" what makes you think he is going to listen to you It will be hard to tell him to take a hike. But you can do it. I would not even give him the respect of talking about it. I would just show him the door and slowly close it behind him. You just smile, turn around and walk away when you do see him. Hugs.

I looked at your age and it breaks my heart you are faced with this at a time when I am not sure you are fully aware of how giving into his demands will normalize the behavior of pushy and demanding boys/men in your life now and going forward.

Value yourself more than your love for him. Please. Otherwise you will learn to accept this level of disrespect manipulation and bullying from men for the rest of your life. Now is the time to be strong and firm with him. No guy is worth it, I promise you.

I just looked at your age too. Wow, hon, you have your whole life ahead of you. You should be worrying about finishing school, going on to university or college. Blossoming into a vibrant, beautiful smart woman. You are too young to be saddled with that creep. Learn to be your own best friend. Follow the beat of your own drum and conscience. I never followed the "norm" of the day when I was your age, Always did my own thing and was so much happier too. Hugs and you can do this. You are stronger than you think. When and if you do see him. Just smile turn around and walk away. What people say about you is none of your business anyway.

I agree with what others have written and just want to give you a big hug of support.... xo

Oh my, this is very difficult for you. The problem is you can't change your BF and must, should, will benefit from accepting that this is his personality and that makes him a bad BF and bad person. If I am being honest and blunt, stop dating him. He will be very angry but you have to love yourself first. He doesn't honor your body or your soul. Even if you say no, he is not going to change or agree to your no. That is the hard thing and why you have to break up and be firm not to see him again. It will take all your strength but any contact will bring him back begging and then using your body again. I know, I have been in your shoes.

I am going to be more blunt. It is not the act of love, it is using the woman's body for his own pleasure. You say no but he says I am ignoring your no. Its not violent rape -- but it is rape as its against your will and its him forcing himself upon you. Taking off your clothes forcibly is rape.

I know this because I was married to a guy like this. The whole thing give me shame and guilt because I allowed it for years and years. Talk to him if you have to but know the only person you can change is yourself. If his attitude is all about him, he will continue to be all about himself. My current husband taught me what real love is.

Forgot to add, he is committing statutory rape. Tell him that. I am so angry for you. I know what it feels like, I have been there too. I am 70 now and can still feel the anger of being used like that.

I was going to comment that this is classified as rape. Someone above me has already stated that. But it needs to be said again. HE IS RAPING YOU! Please let that sink in and use it to get away from him before things get worse because believe me they are going to get worse and you're going to have a hell of time getting away from him.

If I’m being honest I’m a little worried about breaking up with him. He’s never hit me except once. I can’t really remember why he slapped me that time, but he probably had a reason He hasn’t done it since. But it still makes me nervous. I’m the kind of person that tears up when people are yelling around or at me.

I’m just a little scared of his reaction and I know that I shouldn’t be. He has a habit of showing just how helpless I am around him. Which I’m sure isn’t too hard for most people as I’m a fairly petite woman at barely over five feet tall.

Just a little intimidated I guess

NOBODY I mean NOBODY has a right to put their hands on you !!!

Once they hit you once they will do it again!!! I don’t know if you live with your parents or what your situation is but you need to tell somebody and get some help!!! You need to get out of this relationship ASAP .

I also recommend to seek some counseling if you haven’t and tell your therapist what’s going on