Have you shared any of this with your family or another person in your life? Or are you keeping all this a secret from everyone.

I think you should share this information with someone you trust and plan for how you break up with him. If you are intimidated, it may be best to break up with him over the phone rather than in person but I’d make sure you have a support system who knows what’s going on. Then you will need to block his number and stop all contact once you do that. You have to be strong about that and not let him manipulate you.

This is the thing. He intimidates you because he knows he can get away with it. Stop letting him get away with it. But be smart. Have people around you to support you and call the cops if he threatens you, forces himself in you or puts his hands on you.

I don’t know how old he is but if you are a minor and he’s an adult, in some states he is technically a rapist even for just having a sexual relationship with you, outside of forcing himself on you. If he threatens you, is physical with you, etc call the cops. You can also look up women’s advocacy resources in your county. They can help coach you and support you in navigating getting out of this terrible situation.

He is an emotionally, sexually and physically abusive person. Which means you are a victim of emotional, sexual and physical abuse. Please hear that.

We are here for you!

Please do a google search for a battered women's (person's) shelter near you so you can talk to a counselor for free. Unfortunately, you are a battered person at this point. He has hit you, he rapes you, he is mean. Please do not blame yourself or say this is all you are worth or "But I love him." This is not love. I am so sorry. Please let us know how you are doing. Do not talk to him about his behaviors as trying to get him to change. Please get counseling from a battered women's shelter first before you do anything except say no. You have a choice of getting up and walking away from him when he is grabbing your clothing. You can leave, you can not be in private with him. Don't go to his apartment. If you live with your parents, or are in school, talk to an adult who will be helpful. We all worry for you.

Yes, Icequeen, by established definitions, you seem to be in what is properly called an 'abusive relationship' which has already exhibited signs of 'domestic abuse/violence'. There is a National Domestic Violence Hotline available at 1-EightHundred-799-SAFE or thehotline-dot-org The website has a live 'chat' feature. Daily Strength is a good place to get support and advice, but if you need to talk with experienced counselors, typically women, who can offer support and guidance, I would highly recommend you at least give them a call to hear their advice and know what your options are. Best wishes.

Here's a list of crisis supports for teens and sexual abuse as well as abused women

https://support.dailystrength.org/hc/en-us/articles/207430776-What-if-I-need-emergency-help-

Wow! This guy is a tool! Best to leave him. You can talk all you want, he will just leave. Be strong let him leave..

If you are afraid he will hurt you. At least you can call the cops and get a restraining order. As sad it will be if it comes to that, I am praying it doesn't.

Your self worth is more than this. There are other wonderful men out there who will not slap you or push for sex. He has no respect for you, which means he has none for himself. Know your worth that you deserve better than this tool.

Same: Please call 1-800-799-SAFE which is the National Domestic Violence Hotline and go from there. Judgment free and anonymous. Please post back and let us know how you are doing.

I'm with pretty much everyone here. You need to be firm about slowing things down to where you feel you don't need to defend your personal territory. There's no room there for arguing about whether or not that is right or wrong or fair or unfair because it's everyone's right, including YOURS to do that.

If that respect isn't granted, then you're dealing with a toxic situation and you should distance yourself from it even further. But first, see if you can establish the sort of mutual respect YOU want, and don't feel you need to give-in.

Get out! He is raping you, controlling your mind with games and abusing you! As bad as it is now, the situation will only get worse in the future. You deserve much better and you will find it. But first, cut your losses. And remember, no matter what you do, you don't deserve to be hit, ever!