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I have been dating my BF for 5 months now. So situation is this:
i live alone and I have to work overtime. I have no family basically and my friends can rarely help. Sometime my daughter needs transportation to and from school.
Her dad helps, but can't always do that. My ex fiancé, who my daughter really likes, volunteered to help. He lives only 2 minutes from me.
However, this man is definitely not good for me and my friends think I need to avoid any contact with him.
I asked my BF how he would feel if I asked my ex for help and he threw a huge fit and said he will drive my daughter instead. He thinks my ex is a terrible person I should never contact him for anything.
If my BF was not a single dad, I would definitely have no problem with that, but he is already spread thin. He has 2 small kids to drive all over the place on his visitation day. We are sort of close to his area, but his kids' school is way out of our way.
If he is truly a bona fide narcissistic man he is using your daughter as a way to manipulate you.
I just worry about getting into another controlling relationship.
To be honest, I am already dealing with things I don't like about my BF and I m trying to be objective, rather than go on emotions.
It could be controlling, or it could be just helpful, like you would in a relationship... theres a back story to this Im not aware of but if it makes you feel uncomfortable then I think its valid.