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I met my boyfriend online 6 months ago and started dating him 2 months later. We live an hour and a half away from each other, and we see each other once per week.
I have been worrying about the future of our relationship lately.
This is because it seems like he is still in the honeymoon phase and like I'm not.
I love him very much and I'm very attracted to him. We always have fun together, and I feel safe with him. I feel he loves me unconditionally and would do anything for me.
I still get butterflies and I'm still extremely affectionate with him. I always look forward to seeing him and do my best to make it happen. And I love doing nice things for him, as he does for me.
There's no doubt in my mind about whether I'm in love with him.
But I do wonder if what I'm feeling is normal this early in the relationship.
I know that after the honeymoon phase ends, couples develop a deeper kind of love that is less about passion and more about companionship.
I feel like I have entered this phase, while he's still in the honeymoon phase.
The fact that he's still in the honeymoon phase scares me a little because, while I think that's normal considering how long we've been dating, I wonder if he'll still want to be with me when it's over. In previous relationships, my boyfriends have been very passionate in the beginning and then left after the honeymoon phase ended.
I know I probably sound crazy for saying this, but as of now, I would like to marry my boyfriend someday. He told me he wants to marry me, too. (He brought it up first) I try not to think about it too much or too seriously because it is way too early to tell if that's a good idea. But my point is that we both want to do what we can to make this relationship last.
Is it a bad sign that the honeymoon phase didn't last long for me? And is it going to be a problem if he's in that phase while I'm not? Or am I wrong about not being in the honeymoon phase in the first place?
It's hard for me to tell because I overanalyze things.
Any thoughts or advice would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you!
I have been worrying about the future of our relationship lately.
This is because it seems like he is still in the honeymoon phase and like I'm not.
I love him very much and I'm very attracted to him. We always have fun together, and I feel safe with him. I feel he loves me unconditionally and would do anything for me.
I still get butterflies and I'm still extremely affectionate with him. I always look forward to seeing him and do my best to make it happen. And I love doing nice things for him, as he does for me.
There's no doubt in my mind about whether I'm in love with him.
But I do wonder if what I'm feeling is normal this early in the relationship.
I know that after the honeymoon phase ends, couples develop a deeper kind of love that is less about passion and more about companionship.
I feel like I have entered this phase, while he's still in the honeymoon phase.
The fact that he's still in the honeymoon phase scares me a little because, while I think that's normal considering how long we've been dating, I wonder if he'll still want to be with me when it's over. In previous relationships, my boyfriends have been very passionate in the beginning and then left after the honeymoon phase ended.
I know I probably sound crazy for saying this, but as of now, I would like to marry my boyfriend someday. He told me he wants to marry me, too. (He brought it up first) I try not to think about it too much or too seriously because it is way too early to tell if that's a good idea. But my point is that we both want to do what we can to make this relationship last.
Is it a bad sign that the honeymoon phase didn't last long for me? And is it going to be a problem if he's in that phase while I'm not? Or am I wrong about not being in the honeymoon phase in the first place?
It's hard for me to tell because I overanalyze things.
Any thoughts or advice would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you!
I see the honeymoon stage as being the stage where you don't really know everything about each other, you don't know their quirks, their habits, how they deal with stresses, how they handle problems in or out of the relationship, how you treat each other in all different types of situations.
To me the honeymoon stage being over is when you know the person very well, how they are in every day life, how they handle all types of things and after you see all sides of them, you still want to be with him/her.
Well I'd say that although your feelings are valid, I don't think it's a real concern, more like a coincidence. Remember everybody's different, and should be treated as such. If you have these concerns talk to him about it, give him a chance to reassure you that he is different. He seems like a really sweet person as do you. Don't allow your past pitfalls drag down the great things going in your life now, it's not fair to them.
Again, talk to him about your insecurities as it will be an opportunity to bond and build trust.
Good luck to you both.
Relationships move at their own pace...if you both feel good about each other, then it sounds fine ;)