It all depends on them. You also need to treat yourself with kindness and gentleness. You will have days that all you want to do is cry, that is okay. Hugs Yaya.

Thank you so much for your words but how can I e Linder to me and treat myself gentle? Yes crying is good is nothing bad is our restart button ND we will be okay and thank you so much for your hugs

One day at a time, sometimes it is even one hour at a time. It is hard but you can do it. It will take time and a lot of hard work. Learn to love and appreciate yourself. Stop feeling guilty for things that are totally out of your control. The only person you can control is yourself. One big hug. On thing more. smile

We treat ourselves gently by not blaming ourselves and saying this is the end of the world. We start to say we don't deserve to be cheated on and this is not our fault. We do positive self talk by talking to ourselves in our heads or writing a journal about how we feel.

Can a relationship survive infidelity? Some can and some can't. The cheating partner has to be truly remorseful and willing to change their own attitudes and behaviors. If the cheating partner blames you, or says this is your fault, then this is bad, bad, bad. You can take on his guilt by blaming yourself or you can realize you have value and worth and no one deserves to be cheated on. Some wives accept their husband is untrustworthy and swallow down their feelings because they need his income or they have a lot of children with him or their parents control them and say you can't divorce. It takes time for you to figure out your own emotions and to begin to find healing.

It’s different for everyone. I’ve not experienced infidelity in my marriage but experienced cheating with a prior relationship when I was younger. I feel if you are married and/or have children with the person, it’s a different situation entirely. In that case I might feel more compelled to try to work it out but I don’t know if I really could myself, even if my spouse did everything he could to rebuild trust, was deeply sorry, etc. My own anger and feeling like I was being made a fool of would be very hard for me to get past, just knowing myself. I could forgive but wouldn’t feel forgiveness requires me staying.

If it’s a boyfriend, for me, it’s a no brainer; I’m done. If we aren’t legally bound I have no reason to stay. But that’s just how my mind works.

But I really do feel it’s a personal decision based on the people involved, the relationship, etc. I would really try to take time focus on yourself right now and what YOU want for yourself.

I agree that it depends on the situation and how much you have invested ... I also agree to treat yourself well and with kindness

What do you think you should do?... It would help to know a bit more about the situation.... Big hug... I'm sorry that you've been hurt....xo

It depends. I have known people who have gotten through it and others like myself who couldn't. For myself, it made my self worth and who I was questioned. His constant apologies etc. He ended up cheating again and I just left because my self worth was more than a man who suffered within himself where he needed to cheat. Funny thing, over the past 12 years he has has reached out several times to get back together. After I healed, I said ok maybe he has changed. Well he didn't. He was with someone else and now roles reversed I am the other woman lol. I said goodbye to him for good. Since then he has tried a few more times lol. His loss, he lost a good woman and I am happy without him.

If you think you can get over the infedility, try. You both may be able too. And if you can't at least you tried, but please remember your self worth and do not allow it suffer during the process.