I have chronic fatigue syndrome or cfs. Back in September I got a cold from my girlfriend and I went into a four month relapse of cfs during which I felt terrible every night. I lost many days of work at my part time job. I had a terrible time. My girlfriend got sick again 12 days ago with a sore throat and body aches and generally feeling very tired and unwell. Later the sore throat went away and she developed a cough.She took antibiotics but did not go to a doctor. She tells me she has been feeling well since yesterday. This was the first day she did not feel unwell, she did not have body aches and she did not feel tired other than normal tiredness from work. Her cough is also gone. She wants to come visit me tomorrow. (She lives 2 hours away from me).I am really scared that she is still contagious and that I might go into another 4 month cfs relapse. She says she cannot come see me in a long time after this weekend. I dont know what to do. I have already expressed concern to her about getting what she had and she got upset. She said I dont want to see her. I told her I really want to see her but that I am worried that she is contagious. We cut the conversation because she was at work. But we will talk again in a few hours. Any suggestions as to what should I do? Is she still contagious? I feel that if she comes I will feel fearful while she is here. But maybe there is nothing I should worry about. I dont know. I am confused. I dont want to hurt her feelings but I dont want another 4 month relapse. I cant afford to miss work and I dont think I can stand the suffering for another 4 months. I feel happy that I am finally almost completely recovered. If I go through another 4 month relapse this will also affect our relationship. We spent four month without having sex or going out or doing much at all. Please tell me what you think. I am extremely confused. And very scared.