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I'm not lying when I say I love him

Melons135
Melons135

Okay so I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year and I truly love him a lot and I try to tell him and show him everyday but now he's convinced that I don't love him at all but I don't understand why he would think that he says I'm just lying and that he won't change his mind about it.. I swear I'm not lying I really do love him I just don't understand what I'm doing wrong I know this probably sounds pathetic but I'm scared to lose him. They say trust is an important thing in a relationship but I don't know when or why he lost that trust

rmb
rmb
Something is off with him to just insist you don't love him with no basis. Is he emotionally unstable, suffering from depression, etc?
Melons135
Melons135
rmb, yes he is
rmb
rmb
I don't think there is anything you can do or say to prove it, because he's not well. You are not doing anything wrong. Is he getting help?
lostsoul72
lostsoul72
I agree with rmb. Its what she described or he's looking to get rid of you.

I am sorry to say that and I wish you all the luck.
jrnnagirl131
jrnnagirl131
It seems he is battling his own thoughts and is stuck on seeing it's not enough..in my experience, I was told I needed to love myself more as much as it hurts because if you can love yourself first then you can't truly love someone how they deserve and that's what he needs help with..loving himself
Werdna4679
Werdna4679
Tbh the comment above me (jrnnagirl131) truly resonates with me. I have trouble believing anybody actually loves me or even likes to be around me, it just feels like their all putting up with me. It's hard to believe anybody loves me because I have low self esteem, you feel like your not enough, and it's all a lie, because you can't see why they would love you.. And anxiety and depression makes you look at every little thing and say "Man I should've done this, idiot" and feel horrible about it, further plunging you into your bad day. Continue loving him and telling him how much you love him, continue being there for him and point him to the amazing things he's done.
Sorry if I wasn't any more help lol. But I'm always here if you need me, even just to chat. And I won't ever judge ya lol

-Mark
Melons135
Melons135
Werdana4679, thanks. its good being able to talk to someone and especially someone who sees from his point of view
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