You are describing my husband. Some people are simply this way and it's important to accept them as they are in order to have harmony in the marriage.
Focus on the positives. What does he do that you like? My husband shows his love by spending on me. Instead of cuddling he is willing to buy me things that make me happy. He is just not a very emotional or romantic person.
Have you been doing things together, such as outdoor activities and sports? Do you share a similar hobby or passion? It's important to find many different ways of bonding.
When you were dating, did you notice his behavior or did he change drastically once you got married?
You say that you know he loves you...when do you notice his love for you? What are the daily things he does which show you that he cares? Does he accept you fully or does he also nit pick at your behavior?
Has he always been so reserved or is this a recent change?

check out the book the 5 love languages as its possible he believes he's showing you love in his mind, but is missing the mark from yours

Hi. My husband and I don't do anything together never really have and I suppose I was comfortable with that when we were first together and thought that one day he would WANT to do more with me, be more affectionate, be more romantic, for him to even notice me. We don't spend any one on one time together. We have not been able to find any hobbies we share an interest in because we don't ever spend time or communicate though I try to. He has no interest in doing any of this or finding a compromise he says I am trying to change him.. and all I want is to be noticed and feel like I am important and loved by him. He says he loves me and I have to believe him on that I just don't FEEL like he loves me. I have tried setting up nights we spend time together but he says I should stop prioritising his sleep for myself. He goes to bed at 9 every night even on nights he does not work the next day. Our son goes to bed at 8. between 8- 9 that's his shower and get ready for bed time.. so there is no time we have one on one. I feel as if I just don't know him. He is completely content with living as I call like room mates. He has no desire to work on this. He does not think he needs to change. Thank you for the book suggestion I will look into it

I too feel more like a roommate (and a maid) than a spouse. Our 15 year anniversary will be in September.

For the last 10 years there has been no sex , affection or any type of physical touch (with the exception of an occasional peck here and there) After so long, I resigned myself to that's the way it's gonna be and I completely shut down and was doing just as he (hubby) was....going through the motions with virtually nothing to look forward to. The thing is...he is content (comfortable) with the way things are. I have always done everything else so basically his needs (that mattered to him) were being met. Unfortunately none of mine were (are)

He is the same as your husband...unwilling to do anything to change or try to improve the situation The deal with your son's bedtime then he immediately needs "his " time. (in my mind if he really did care and was willing to try.....he could spend at least part of that time with you first) They don't seem to understand how this makes us feel. (like we aren't important or even cared about)

You are much younger than we are. I was just curious if you hubby was older than you? (A friend of mine whose husband suddenly lost interest went and got checked out....at her request.... For him his testosterone level was low. He's now simply taking a med (or some sort of supplement) and they are doing well. MAYBE it could be something like that for you guys?

I will cross my fingers and say some prayers that he may come around or that you may find some answers for what you want and need and how to possibly get them. You are far too young to be sentenced to a life like this. Good luck.

My boyfriend is the same way. Some people are just wired that way. Has he been like this since u have meet? My boyfriend has been and when we first got together I was fine with it I didn't like the clingy stuff. I didn't mind him not always wanting to hold my hand or cuddle. I didn't mind that he didn't want to be sexual all the time. This was due to a previous abusive marriage. But as time went on I feel in love and those things that I didn't mind him not doing started to bug me made me feel like he wasn't into me anymore and felt like we were roommates. So I suggest thinking back to when u first meet. Is he the same in this aspect as when u first meet? If so then u changed and need to think of what u love about him. Find ways with him to sub for what he doesn't do. Me and my boyfriend like to play games. So we will spend time in the evening and play call of duty. Find something u both like to do and ask him to join u. Either it be an outdoor activity or indoor.

The biggest mistake a woman can make is thinking "he will change once we get married"...

If he was like this before you got married maybe just maybe you shouldn't have gone through with it. A husband is automatically suppose to compliment his wife, no not 24/7/365 as men are wired differently from us. You should never have to ask for attention/affection and whatever else he's not providing.

You say you know he loves you, however from what you wrote he doesn't sound very loving. Now you need to do a pro and con list to ask yourself if you want to spend the rest of your life with someone like him. I always say tomorrow isn't promised to us and we don't get do overs, so we have to live our lives to the fullest, even if that means we have to let go of people who aren't lifting us up!

What did you like about him and he like about you when you were first together? There had to be something that connected you enough that made each of you decide you wanted the other to be your partner and companion.

Your husband may need to be told more specifics than you need more spark and romance. That is very vague.

You are definitely not alone. I have these troubles with my fiance from time to time and I always feel that there is something wrong with me! But I know now that some people are just like that. I saw that you said you feel yourself giving up, but try not to. I find myself complimenting him and making him feel the way I want him to make me feel and eventually he comes around (not all the time, but most of the time). I know now that I cannot expect him to be exactly the way I want him to be so most of the time I initiate it. If you initiate it, does he decline or pull away? Does he seem uncomfortable doing those things?

These are the type off issues my SO and I had for MANY years. I waited and things finally got better but it took damn near 11 years!

He was not affectionate at all and also had to force himself to try to be. It was bad, but I am lucky that he changed. and even though I stayed and waited, I don't necessarily recommend that, because you don't know that things will be better.

I think it's important for you to reflect on that your love needs are. If he cant love you the way you need, maybe you should move on. It doesn't make him wrong for being the way he is, it's not about being right or wrong, it's simply that you both have different needs and require different things to feel loved and wanted. You both deserve to feel that way.