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I am worthless and lazy

Jaxxy
Jaxxy

My husband constanly controlling every i do or see. he is very verbally abusive. I did have a problem taking pain meds like 10 years ago. ( not any more ) is it still ok for him to do this !  please help 

lucillegem
lucillegem
no this is not okay. do you have a womans crisis center nearby? maybe you can google it and please go seek help, but no you dont deserve that and you shouldnt tolerate it.
praying you stay safe, and if things really escalate you can always call 911 but hopefully it doesnt get that bad.
sending warm hugs.
Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
Welcome Jaxxy….. It was never okay for him to do this sweetie.... Never

I'll put up a list of crisis resources on here.... It might help you to talk with someone from a Domestic Abuse hotline

Big hug......xo

https://support.dailystrength.org/hc/en-us/articles/207430776-What-if-I-need-emergency-help-
rmb
rmb
Agree... it was never ever ok. I'm sorry you're dealing with this. Hope you're safe.
Jaxxy
Jaxxy
Wow! Never thought I would get a reply, I have been with him for 28 years, I don’t have anything, I can’t go to bank nor am I aloud to carry a debit card. But thanks for all the encouragement, it’s hzrder than u might think. He will keep our grown kids away from me
Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
A domestic shelter can help you if you want to leave Jaxxy…… They are really great places...

I volunteered at one for a while and they are safe places to go as well they help you to get on your feet and get to the next good place in life

Most people who have been abused have had everything taken away..... There are numbers on the link I put up that can help with info if you're interested

Isolation is one of their biggest weapons of choice

The most dangerous time though for any abuse victim is when they're leaving so if you are considering leaving please be safe

Gentle hug....xo

https://helpguide.org/articles/abuse/domestic-violence-and-abuse.htm
rmb
rmb
He’s pathetic. Think how frightened and small he must feel day in and day out that he has to use your children against you, keep you isolated and strip you of your own power. He keeps you down because he’s weak and spineless himself.

My heart goes out to you but there are resources to help you once you decide you must leave, as SunCloud suggested.
Tere1313
Tere1313
Sorry it's wrong I was in relationship for 25 year we were each other's best friend each day things changed for the worst,and I really love him but and would say I am sorry for hitting abusing would blame me,not the drugs or drinking beer,and I felt t terrible to abandon him,but I begged him to stop,he was mentally and physically abuse. And I not believing in myself.. trust me you new a new start,I know it's. Not easily,but life is not. But you need to be happy too,you deserve it,,God love you, remember that. You are special,and deserve to be happy.. never forget that. .
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