Feels the same to me , dig deeper ..... Whats really going on here ?

Space for a few days to reflect .... Good luck x

1) A really bad problem barker dog can be a major, major problem.

2) Making it a choice of either him or the dog after 17 years of marriage is beyond extreme.

There's a much bigger problem at play than the dog, and without knowing all the truth it's hard to say exactly what it is. All I can say is if you both stick to your guns, refuse to look outside your respective points of view, it's probably not going to end well.

I seriously hope you dont get rid of the dog.
The poor thing, after being abused and finally led to believe it was going to be able to live life freely in a safe, loving home. Threatened to be kicked back out (possibly to another abuser) because someone didnt understand the responsibility involved.
Could you imagine if those people did the same to their children?
But I guess... some people do...

I gotta say I'd have to seriously question my commitment to someone so willing to end a 17 year marriage over something like this. Where is the teamwork and problem solving skills? Where is the compromise? I think the Yorkie may make a better partner...

Just some questions:

Is having a dog more important than maintaining an intact marriage?

Is having a dog more important than having a father present for a child?

Is there anything going on in the house that's exciting the dog? That is, what's triggering the dog to bark?

Can the dog be put somewhere removed from barking triggers during the time the husband is working?

I don't know the answers and I don't know if the husband's just using this as an excuse for something deeper.

However there are two apparent problems:

1) Ongoing marital issues being worked on.

2) Dog's excessive barking from a dog that's admittedly a challenge.

Which is the more weighty and consequential problem with more far-reaching implications and consequences?

Now I'm a dog lover and I'd hate to see the dog given up on. However what are the priorities and what are the real underlying issues? I would think the main priority is the marriage but I have no clue what the real underlying issues are.

Agree with everyone. Hubby must be threatening divorce because of more than the barking dog. Control issues?

Dog needs some training and if that doesn't work it may need a bark collar; some produce noise like someone already mentioned and some shock the dog. If the dog has anxiety issues that needs to be addressed. Good luck

i was wondering if your husband had a say when you got the dog, or if you got the dog on your own without discussing it with him. if that is the case the fact that he was patient with the dog for 14 months means he at least tried to accept the dog but now its to the point that he can no longer take it any more. if thats the case then i would choose a husband of 17yrs over a dog of 14 months. if you both got the dog together, then he need to take responsibility on his part to try to make things work out with the dog. though you both may have made the decision together he may have done that to make you happy but was not truly at peace with the idea and now he had enough, but since assuming you both made the decision to get the dog he should give it a chance by agreeing to the training.